"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Meeting you know who

Remulak

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Me and my girlfriend have been together roughly 6 months and I'm going out to dinner with her parents next week and I'm kind of nervous about it. I don't know why but whenever it comes to meeting a girlfriend's parents I don't look forward to it because I feel like I'm going to be judged. Does anyone have any tips or anything to deal with the situation. I'm kind of shy so I don't know what I'm going to talk about and stuff. Please mature and serious answers only.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just be yourself.... parents are always looking for a good "guy" for there daughter. If your right for her then you have nothing to worry about. Just play it cool and dont do anything stupid and it always works out in the end.
 

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Just ask them to tell you some stories about your girl and share some related stories about yourself while growing up (nothing too dark). You want to project yourself as steady, determined and a planner; not someone who jumps into things haphazardly.

Six months is an important time in a relationship, it's when each of you determine whether to fish or cut bait. At six months, her wanting to introduce you to her parents is a good thing for you, it means that your girl really interested in you. Just remember that you're not going into a den of wolves on your own, you have an ally on your side.
 

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She said "It's weird you're meeting my parents, I haven't introduced any guys to my parents since high school."


So todays the day I'm meeting her parents we're going out to dinner tonight. Wish me luck!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Remulak said:
Me and my girlfriend have been together roughly 6 months and I'm going out to dinner with her parents next week and I'm kind of nervous about it. I don't know why but whenever it comes to meeting a girlfriend's parents I don't look forward to it because I feel like I'm going to be judged. Does anyone have any tips or anything to deal with the situation. I'm kind of shy so I don't know what I'm going to talk about and stuff. Please mature and serious answers only.
EVERYONE is going to judge you. It ca't be helped.

My ex girlfriend's father hated my guts, and I never actually met him. But he was an illiterate, angry, violent drunk, so that was HIS malfunction. He was an ass.

Just don't be crass in front of them, or talk about how often your shtooping their daughter (if you are). Be a cool guy, be yourself, but give them respect, even if they're jackasses. Don't kiss up to them, don't be phoney. And remember, you're dating their daughter, and not them. If they get out of lne, defend yourself, and do it with tact and class. You're golden, anyway.

It's like a date (all the polite stuff), but you're not interested in the parents, so it's no big deal. If you keep building it up into something, then it will seem bigger than it is, and you'll make yourself more nervous than you have to be.

I hope you have the worst of luck, and I hope they never want to see you again, and I hope you break a leg. (In show business, that actually means I'm wishing you really good luck).
 

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If she's taking you to her parents, she has a high opinion of you.. so you're basically in at this point. Don't do anything extremely embarassing, and you're done. Don't have condoms in your pocket, caz sometimes an all-telling circle can show. Relax, act like you've known them a while, address the alpha of the group; Dad.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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KillaPetehog speaks with much wisdom.

Anyone who finds himself in the same situation should memorize his post, and he will do absolutely fine.

Sun Tzu
 

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Do the same you would to impress a women;

~Dress sharp
~Good posture
~BE POSITIVE!

Just let them know that their baby isn't with some deadbeat.
 
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