"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CJE666

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I'm 21, consider myself charming, funny and confident, but alas at 21, I am still a virgin. My towns population mainly consists of old people and high school kids. The people my age are all in cliques, and my social circle has 0 women in it. I work almost everyday to pay for my house/bills, and both jobs I either work with all guys or by myself. Going downtown there are many girls, but its extremly expensive (I live in vancouver which is one of the most pricey places in North America) so I dont get to go there very much due to bills.

I write sports articles/poetry, an aspiring poker player and do lots of physical activity to keep me happy, but at times I feel that loneliness and it tears me up inside. Does anyone have some good suggestions?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well, the women are not going to come to you anymore than fish are going to jump into a fisherman's boat. You have to put yourself out there. Hobbies. Clubs. If you're tired of small town life, then maybe its time to move to a city...you're 21. If your town is really that small, and your social circle is really that lame, then meeting new friends is just as important as meeting new women.

Expand your social circle. Do more things. Meet more people. I dont know your town or your finances...but whether you're rich or poor, thats the path. You can either take it or you can stay where you are.
 
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Mantis Toboggan said:
Well, the women are not going to come to you anymore than fish are going to jump into a fisherman's boat. You have to put yourself out there. Hobbies. Clubs. If you're tired of small town life, then maybe its time to move to a city...you're 21. If your town is really that small, and your social circle is really that lame, then meeting new friends is just as important as meeting new women.

Expand your social circle. Do more things. Meet more people. I dont know your town or your finances...but whether you're rich or poor, thats the path. You can either take it or you can stay where you are.
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Most of these dudes complaining don't want to put in actual work to improve their situations let alone intenalize advice. They prefer to just complain about things while passing 'alone' time and blowing off steam.
 
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Naughty Ninja said:
Most of these dudes complaining don't want to put in actual work to improve their situations let alone intenalize advice. They prefer to just complain about things while passing 'alone' time and blowing off steam.
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Im sorry if i come off as a complainer, im just frustrated, and at 21 with no sex who wouldn't be. I want to put in the work, thats how i found out about this site and why i joined the forums. Im just looking for a step in the right direction.
 
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Fair play to you CJE 666.

I think th point naughty is making, is that we have to work hard as DJs/womanisers. Consider it as a job of work to get the poon.

It only falls into the lap, without work, of people like rock god Mick Jagger ;)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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