"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Meeting through someone else...

gm8384

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It happens a lot that 2 people meet through another friend.

So, I am wondering if anyone here has ever asked a girl they know if they have any single friends? I meet girls as often as possible, but my track record hasn't been great lately. However, I know a couple girls that I would feel comfortable asking if they have any single friends.

Anyone think this could be a successful way to meet some more girls?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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WhitePimp

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Thats usually my preferred way to meet chicks, it's just a much higher all around success rate. My advice is to try to get in on some kind of group thing and meet any of her friends that way, so it's less like a "blind date" and more just like two people meeting on even ground. As for just plain asking for a hook up, it could work but chances are it might be more awkward for all parties...never tried it so I cant say for sure
 

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My first psuedo-LTR came via this method, except she simply offered without me asking. It was great, and the girl she hooked me up with was for the most part a great girl, but had social and body image issues that eventually led to the end of it. As long as you know what to screen for though, it should be good.
 

Cremasta

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Yep, this is a good idea. You also find out what your friends think of you by the quality of girl they try to hook you up with. If they only throw 8's and 9's your way, you are doing well. If they send you their inbred 2nd cousin with terminal halitosis then you need to find new friends.
 

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rofl @ cremasta

but i was curious MetalFortress, what led to the break up?

i believe a friend of mine is on the same path, and i can see he's getting tired of her ****
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Paintballguy

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This girl I know is trying to hook me up now. She said she had some people in mind so im hoping they are hot.
 

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My only "concern" with asking anyone is that I am not real good friends with many people. There are 2 girls I talk to fairly regularly online and hang out with every now and then (they are best friends) so I know I could ask either of them no prob.

Besides them, it is more girls I know from school that I don't talk to much outside of being on campus. I am sure I could approach it real casually or make a joke about how hard it is to meet single girls and then ask if they have any friends that are single.

If they say no, I can just say "see what I mean?"

I think as long as I don't come off as desperate it would be alright to ask, but I am skeptical to ask girls that I know, but am not best friends with...
 

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Here is what you do....


Call one of the two girls that are best friends one day. Just talk to them like you normally would, you know the bs stuff. Then, you can say something like "So, you know any hot single women?" sortof in a joking but serious way. Usually it works....
 

gm8384

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Yea I've tried the girls I know pretty well, so I guess it's onto the girls I don't know as well...
 
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