"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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meeting this girl, what next?

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Ok I pulled (kissed loads) a hb8 on satuarday night, was with her the best part of the end of my night. She seemed well into me, so I number tied her. I txt her Monday saying how are you, what you been upto type txt. the reason I txt her Monday instead of wednesday is that shes in my college, so if I bumped into her it would have been awkward. ne ways she replied,

"Yeah nuffin much u? Are u out next weekend txb lov emx"

I replied That I jus got outta the gym, I'm meeting some people in this town tonight, I said I'm in the city thursday, and may be up town in the weekend if my mates are up there.

she replies

"Cool i going up town satuarday and got a party in my sister flat 2moz have fun in neath txt u tomoz kk txb lov emxxx"

I didnt bother txting her back that night, n went out.

Ilike her, ne suggestions how to play it o wise DJs?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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we've bn txting bck n forth a bit now, n I'm meeting her satuarday night. Is it to soon to ask her to be my g/f :s I'm so new to this part.....:(
 

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*sighs*
*cries*
*shakes head in shame*


Hehe, j/k bro. Look, you don't ask a girl to be your girlfriend. Thats afc and lame. You have fun with her, go out on some dates, and see where that leads you. There's a dating stage and then there's a g/f stage. Being someone's g/f is a BIG label. Some people don't consider a person they're dating a b/f or a g/f til like 2-3 months down the road. You just met this girl once, and all of a sudden u wanna be her g/f ? Come'on bro, you dont even know her, how can u make that assumption that u want to be her g/f ?

You asking her to be your g/f after seeing her once, is like me going up to a girl in one of my college classes and asking her to be my g/f. The result ? A laugh in your face.

Hang out with her, make moves on her, kiss her, f*ck her, and wait for her to ask you the question. Not vice versa.
 

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Thanks man :) I've just spent the whole year practising meeting grls off the net, clubs, partys, street, and pools etc. I'm just uneducated on getting grls to be my g/f, and probably alot more stuff.
 
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