Meeting Parents.. Dad's not Friendly?

[bearfan34201]

So I'm taking this girl too homecoming tonight, I know this should be in High School forum but I want to have some advice from the older guys cause they've been there or cuase there parents.


From what my she said(me and her are 'seeing' eachother) her dad is not friendly at all too boyfriends or guys in general. She didnt talk to her ex bf until 3 1/2 months into the relationship and he was forced too. I get to meet him tonight for pictures and I was wondering if there is anything I can do that can leave a good impression. I'm generally good with people so I probably won't have a problem meeting him. But I want the guy to warm up and for it not to be akward.


Any suggestions?


Also, me and her are going out to dinner tonight(she made reservations already). Is it OK for me too pay for dinner cause she bought my Ticket to homecoming? Or should I have her pay for the tip or something? I don't want to seem like a AFC but I don't want to seem like a complete prick.

Thanks

 

[SamePendo]

The best way to understanding is first, respecting whatever some other person does and believes, apparently, you've passed that.

Now, the second way, is to get in their shoes. He loves his daughter very much, and the very thought of ANY guy even holding her hand, makes his veins pop and gets him crazed up. Period.

What you must do is go there with all humbleness, be TOTALLY respectful, but not in the way a kid is to his boss, but in the way a prince is to a king, quiet, acting like a man.

The paying thing, it's a post itself.

 

[comic_relief]

hey,

i agree with Pendo.

I have met a few parents in my life. They are very easy to crack open.

I go with finding out small things like what he likes and draw comparisons together between the two of us. Like if he likes fishing, I would start to talk to him about fishing stories. Find his hobbies and create a conversation. Or find out more about what he does. Take a genuine interest in getting to know him. People never do this anymore. They always have alterior motives behind things. I cracked a very good looking girl yesterday evening by saying that. Believe me, people are very easy to crack for them to open up.

good luck.

comic_relief

 

[SamePendo]

i agree with Pendo.

If you're not with me you're with the terror... *cough*! sorry... the feminists.

 

[bearfan34201]

I want to talk to the father and get to know him you can say. But I don't want to sound fake and all happy cheery. I think he'll see through the fakeness of people trying to suck up to parents?