"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Meeting new people through friends

Prodoge

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I consider this guy one of my friends for not very long actually. The other day he invited me for a couple of drinks with some of his friends.
This was a great opportunity to get to know new people and enlarge my social circle. So i went.

In the end we were 4 people: Him, myself, a mutual friend (girl), and another girl i didn't know.

Off we went and had a great time. Turned out this girl lives in a village just down the road from mine. I chatted with her a bit during the night, which kind of sparked my interest.

Now i would like to get to know her better but don't want to wait until we go out with this mutual friend again. We didn't exchange numbers or anything, just added her on facebook (I know some here might say bad idea but there is really no other way of making contact).

I would like to know what the best way to handle this would be.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bingo-Player

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i would just message her saying you had fun last night , and say you would like to do it again sometime

try and insert some humor into it too if you can , perhaps a little dig at something she did (in a funny way)
 

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i would just message her saying you had fun last night , and say you would like to do it again sometime

try and insert some humor into it too if you can , perhaps a little dig at something she did (in a funny way)
Should i go for a date immediately? Maybe going for like a hang out with other people around would be less pressure and we could get more comfortable around each other before an actual date.
 

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"Hi it was cool hanging out and I want to buy you a beer, this Friday after work 8pm. What do you say?"
 

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Should i go for a date immediately? Maybe going for like a hang out with other people around would be less pressure and we could get more comfortable around each other before an actual date.
yes that's a good idea
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Excuse me whats the good idea? Immediate date or hang out first ? lol
sorry im very sleepy today lol ,

the hang out with her and other people idea, it will give you an opportunity to covertly suss her out a little bit more
 

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sorry im very sleepy today lol ,

the hang out with her and other people idea, it will give you an opportunity to covertly suss her out a little bit more

Update:

Just got back from hanging out with this a girl and a friend. Had a good time, a lot of good laughs. She seemed more relaxed and open towards me than the first time.

On the way home in the car i was talking to our mutual friend, saying that im going to host a party end of the month and that everybody from the area i know is invited. She suddenly asked :"Me too?" (Must have sparked at least a little interest in her lel)

I replied: "Mmmh we'll see about that"
It came out so naturally i'm actually quite proud lol

As they dropped me off i asked for her number before leaving the car and she gave it to me.

Ding ding, round 3: first date.

Here is the deal: she hangs out alot with the guy i call our mutual friend, and now i have started hanging out with him as well.
So it is likely we will see each other next week end again.
Now i have her number, i will follow what i learned in the bible and give it a few days before texting her. This would put a possible date around next w-e end. But since it is likely i will see her then anyway i am not quite sure how to proceed because in this case it doesn't fall in the same category as getting a date with a women i just met.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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