"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Meeting new people through friends

Prodoge

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I consider this guy one of my friends for not very long actually. The other day he invited me for a couple of drinks with some of his friends.
This was a great opportunity to get to know new people and enlarge my social circle. So i went.

In the end we were 4 people: Him, myself, a mutual friend (girl), and another girl i didn't know.

Off we went and had a great time. Turned out this girl lives in a village just down the road from mine. I chatted with her a bit during the night, which kind of sparked my interest.

Now i would like to get to know her better but don't want to wait until we go out with this mutual friend again. We didn't exchange numbers or anything, just added her on facebook (I know some here might say bad idea but there is really no other way of making contact).

I would like to know what the best way to handle this would be.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i would just message her saying you had fun last night , and say you would like to do it again sometime

try and insert some humor into it too if you can , perhaps a little dig at something she did (in a funny way)
 

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i would just message her saying you had fun last night , and say you would like to do it again sometime

try and insert some humor into it too if you can , perhaps a little dig at something she did (in a funny way)
Should i go for a date immediately? Maybe going for like a hang out with other people around would be less pressure and we could get more comfortable around each other before an actual date.
 

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"Hi it was cool hanging out and I want to buy you a beer, this Friday after work 8pm. What do you say?"
 

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Should i go for a date immediately? Maybe going for like a hang out with other people around would be less pressure and we could get more comfortable around each other before an actual date.
yes that's a good idea
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Excuse me whats the good idea? Immediate date or hang out first ? lol
sorry im very sleepy today lol ,

the hang out with her and other people idea, it will give you an opportunity to covertly suss her out a little bit more
 

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sorry im very sleepy today lol ,

the hang out with her and other people idea, it will give you an opportunity to covertly suss her out a little bit more

Update:

Just got back from hanging out with this a girl and a friend. Had a good time, a lot of good laughs. She seemed more relaxed and open towards me than the first time.

On the way home in the car i was talking to our mutual friend, saying that im going to host a party end of the month and that everybody from the area i know is invited. She suddenly asked :"Me too?" (Must have sparked at least a little interest in her lel)

I replied: "Mmmh we'll see about that"
It came out so naturally i'm actually quite proud lol

As they dropped me off i asked for her number before leaving the car and she gave it to me.

Ding ding, round 3: first date.

Here is the deal: she hangs out alot with the guy i call our mutual friend, and now i have started hanging out with him as well.
So it is likely we will see each other next week end again.
Now i have her number, i will follow what i learned in the bible and give it a few days before texting her. This would put a possible date around next w-e end. But since it is likely i will see her then anyway i am not quite sure how to proceed because in this case it doesn't fall in the same category as getting a date with a women i just met.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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