"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well this is basically a girl I met a at a family party about 2 years ago, we have kept in touch recently for about the last 6 months, she told me she loved me, we got past through all that....


Now the problem is i'm seeing her tomorrow so it is kind of akward because normally i would makeout with a girl I have seen for 6 months.


I am super nervous as of now and I can tell she is too, Any tips!!!!! I am picking her up from school,



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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I would also like to mention that this girl intimidates me (her looks) and she feels the same way about me.



We are so both ****ing nervous, I hope I don't go there and all I get is a lousy hug




Any tips??
 
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Haha, I can tell it's gonna be awkward for you tomorrow and there won't be a way around it.

UNLESS, you show her you're a super cool fun guy. But usually if a relationship starts out the way you described... it isn't going to be very fun unless you start off from scratch again.

Family party eh... tell me she's not part of it...
 
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Originally posted by NRM
Haha, I can tell it's gonna be awkward for you tomorrow and there won't be a way around it.

UNLESS, you show her you're a super cool fun guy. But usually if a relationship starts out the way you described... it isn't going to be very fun unless you start off from scratch again.

Family party eh... tell me she's not part of it...
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I am gonna come out really funny but I am going to make sure i don't come on too strong



She is not related to me
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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make sure you make her feel comfortable and establish kino with her.
 
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So should I go as far as makin out with her cuz normally if i was dating a girl for 6 months i would be makin out with them...
 
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Dude, my best advice would be to have a few shots of vodka or whiskey just before hand. It will calm your nerve.

Thats what I usually did back in the days when I was scared ****less meeting new girls.
 
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Haha, you are gonna be so lost and not funny if you're heart is beating fast just thinking about it. What you have to do is relax and not care about her anymore. Remember that she's just a girl and you can move on. If you've just been keeping in touch and fell in love somehow. She's probably just as desperate as you. Or she's just bored. Who knows.

I dunno if you can get away with making out. You've left out so many details, no one can help you there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by NRM
Family party eh... tell me she's not part of it...
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Hahahaha.

Hey, OP, cool it. Don't go in with high expectations. You haven't seen her in 6 months so don't jump the gun. Make sure she is still worth it. Have some fun, lighten up. It's not about getting horny, it's about enjoying yourself.
 
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YOUR GOAL is not to make out with her, that will make you nervous and put a lot of pressure on you. YOUR GOAL is to have FUN and do the normal DJ stuff. Everything should fall down hill from there, once your having fun and your confortable, you can try and make out, finger, bj, etc.

Good luck, your going to need it.

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let us know how it turns out.
 
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Everything went so ****ing smooth, we were both nervous as hell but those last 15 minutes we both loosened up, held hands the whole way and made out for about 2 minutes and we departed
 
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Basically I just threw away my shyness and nervousness and became kind of gutsy



We were having the time of our lives!
 
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Just a little confidence for anyone else who is in my situation
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I am meeting her again friday with 2 other couples, we're all goin to the movies



Any tips?
 
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