"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Meeting in an elevator, what's a good approach?

underwarez

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On occasion, I would be in an elevator with a lady who works on a different floor from me. I want to start talking with her, but I have no idea what to say.

I'm not interested in her as a potential date. I want to know her as an acquiantance (maybe someone who can hook me up with someone in the future).

Anyhow, what can I say to start up a conversation with her? Please give me examples of what to say, not suggestions.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Doppler4000

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There's no magic words... just make an observation about the day, the weather, how you can't wait for the weekend, how bad the elevator music is... the important part is how she responds. Do you get a polite one word answer or does she offer up something more in return? Ideally at the end you'd introduce yourself and find out a little something about her, but the elevator time frame is pretty short. Maybe you'd have more luck in the cafeteria.
 

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I've talked to girls at the coffee mess (similar time crunch as in the elevator) and said "Hi I think I've seen you around before but don't know your name..." You kindof gauge how interested she is in chatting from the way she responds, if everything's good and she wants to make smalltalk for an extra minute, slip in a couple jokes so she knows you're cool to talk with and you can open up a conversation with her next time you see her and take it from there. But that's just what worked for me.
 

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Find an excuse to "accidentally" bump her without of course knocking her down or hurting her, then smile and apologize, then say something about her looking familiar.
 

Vegas Playa

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Let's not forget that you don't have to "accidentally" do anything. You don't need a pretense to talk to a woman.

I'm all for creative approaches, but if you can't come up with anything else in the moment you can at least say, "Hey, what's up. Are you single? I want to talk with you sometime. What's your e-mail?"

By the way, what did playasupreme do to get banned from this hizzy?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Reto

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I'm in that situation and here's what I've done. Not that it's led to anything...

I push floor 4, she, floor 6.

"So, what's on the sixth floor?" She proceeds to tell me..."Really? You like working for XYZ?..." my floor arrrives...

One day she got on and had a Waffle House Coffee in her hand.
"Hello...... Waffle House? God, I've ended many a late saturday nights there..." She giggles...

This is just in the last week to 10 days...We'll see what happens...
 
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