"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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meeting her friends/family on a 2nd date?

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she wanted me to meet her daughter on our first date, and i came up with an excuse, not to go.

now she wanted to introduce me to her friends/family on a 2nd date. i came up with an excuse, but this time it was a bad excuse not to go and it just came out badly basically.. she hung up on me and not returned my calls.

why does she keep wanting to bring other people do our dates?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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rocco said:
she wanted me to meet her daughter on our first date, and i came up with an excuse, not to go.

now she wanted to introduce me to her friends/family on a 2nd date. i came up with an excuse, but this time it was a bad excuse not to go and it just came out badly basically.. she hung up on me and not returned my calls.

why does she keep wanting to bring other people do our dates?
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She's qualifying you though the use of her friends. She's going to begin wondering why you're avoiding the situation by using bad excuses.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I dated a woman who had me over to her sister's house with her entire family for a holiday dinner within the first month we were dating. I was having dinner with 8 of her family members (excluding children) and were fielding questions from all sides. It's a sink or swim situation.
 
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She doesnt want to waste time on some guy that her daughter (the most important thing to her) won't get on with. Its a test! I'd imagine she's rather needy though if she's straight away at that. She probably hasn't even decided yet if she likes you herself as it doesnt sound like you and her have had many dates...
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I dated a woman who had me over to her sister's house with her entire family for a holiday dinner within the first month we were dating. I was having dinner with 8 of her family members (excluding children) and were fielding questions from all sides. It's a sink or swim situation.
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Why didn't you avoid it?! I mean its got to be awkward within the first month, the whole family know you are just a guy that is currently fvcking her with no strings attached, and they put you on the spot like that to see whether you qualify or weed you out. I would be tempted to just burst out and say " look all I am doing is just fvcking your daughter and spinning other plates on the side so deal with it. You don't need to know my future long term plans, so cut the bull**** and stop pretending you like me or pretend we have something in common".

Or better yet:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riTja3VjuQg
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJDamage said:
Why didn't you avoid it?!/quote]
Tons of free food while being the center of attention.
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I mean its got to be awkward within the first month, the whole family know you are just a guy that is currently fvcking her with no strings attached, and they put you on the spot like that to see whether you qualify or weed you out.
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True, but it also allowed me to see the type of people who influences her. Trust me, I had my own set of questions that I asked them about her.
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