"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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meeting her friends/family on a 2nd date?

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she wanted me to meet her daughter on our first date, and i came up with an excuse, not to go.

now she wanted to introduce me to her friends/family on a 2nd date. i came up with an excuse, but this time it was a bad excuse not to go and it just came out badly basically.. she hung up on me and not returned my calls.

why does she keep wanting to bring other people do our dates?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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rocco said:
she wanted me to meet her daughter on our first date, and i came up with an excuse, not to go.

now she wanted to introduce me to her friends/family on a 2nd date. i came up with an excuse, but this time it was a bad excuse not to go and it just came out badly basically.. she hung up on me and not returned my calls.

why does she keep wanting to bring other people do our dates?
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She's qualifying you though the use of her friends. She's going to begin wondering why you're avoiding the situation by using bad excuses.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I dated a woman who had me over to her sister's house with her entire family for a holiday dinner within the first month we were dating. I was having dinner with 8 of her family members (excluding children) and were fielding questions from all sides. It's a sink or swim situation.
 
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She doesnt want to waste time on some guy that her daughter (the most important thing to her) won't get on with. Its a test! I'd imagine she's rather needy though if she's straight away at that. She probably hasn't even decided yet if she likes you herself as it doesnt sound like you and her have had many dates...
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I dated a woman who had me over to her sister's house with her entire family for a holiday dinner within the first month we were dating. I was having dinner with 8 of her family members (excluding children) and were fielding questions from all sides. It's a sink or swim situation.
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Why didn't you avoid it?! I mean its got to be awkward within the first month, the whole family know you are just a guy that is currently fvcking her with no strings attached, and they put you on the spot like that to see whether you qualify or weed you out. I would be tempted to just burst out and say " look all I am doing is just fvcking your daughter and spinning other plates on the side so deal with it. You don't need to know my future long term plans, so cut the bull**** and stop pretending you like me or pretend we have something in common".

Or better yet:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riTja3VjuQg
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJDamage said:
Why didn't you avoid it?!/quote]
Tons of free food while being the center of attention.
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I mean its got to be awkward within the first month, the whole family know you are just a guy that is currently fvcking her with no strings attached, and they put you on the spot like that to see whether you qualify or weed you out.
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True, but it also allowed me to see the type of people who influences her. Trust me, I had my own set of questions that I asked them about her.
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