"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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meeting her friends/family on a 2nd date?

rocco

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she wanted me to meet her daughter on our first date, and i came up with an excuse, not to go.

now she wanted to introduce me to her friends/family on a 2nd date. i came up with an excuse, but this time it was a bad excuse not to go and it just came out badly basically.. she hung up on me and not returned my calls.

why does she keep wanting to bring other people do our dates?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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rocco said:
she wanted me to meet her daughter on our first date, and i came up with an excuse, not to go.

now she wanted to introduce me to her friends/family on a 2nd date. i came up with an excuse, but this time it was a bad excuse not to go and it just came out badly basically.. she hung up on me and not returned my calls.

why does she keep wanting to bring other people do our dates?
She's qualifying you though the use of her friends. She's going to begin wondering why you're avoiding the situation by using bad excuses.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I dated a woman who had me over to her sister's house with her entire family for a holiday dinner within the first month we were dating. I was having dinner with 8 of her family members (excluding children) and were fielding questions from all sides. It's a sink or swim situation.
 

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She doesnt want to waste time on some guy that her daughter (the most important thing to her) won't get on with. Its a test! I'd imagine she's rather needy though if she's straight away at that. She probably hasn't even decided yet if she likes you herself as it doesnt sound like you and her have had many dates...
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I dated a woman who had me over to her sister's house with her entire family for a holiday dinner within the first month we were dating. I was having dinner with 8 of her family members (excluding children) and were fielding questions from all sides. It's a sink or swim situation.
Why didn't you avoid it?! I mean its got to be awkward within the first month, the whole family know you are just a guy that is currently fvcking her with no strings attached, and they put you on the spot like that to see whether you qualify or weed you out. I would be tempted to just burst out and say " look all I am doing is just fvcking your daughter and spinning other plates on the side so deal with it. You don't need to know my future long term plans, so cut the bull**** and stop pretending you like me or pretend we have something in common".

Or better yet:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riTja3VjuQg
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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DJDamage said:
Why didn't you avoid it?!/quote]
Tons of free food while being the center of attention.
DJDamage said:
I mean its got to be awkward within the first month, the whole family know you are just a guy that is currently fvcking her with no strings attached, and they put you on the spot like that to see whether you qualify or weed you out.
True, but it also allowed me to see the type of people who influences her. Trust me, I had my own set of questions that I asked them about her.
 
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