meeting girls in workout class

[PlatoPacks23]

I met this girl in a workout class I go to regularly and she was super cool, clicked w her and she was definitely my type I go for. she was w 2 friends and they were trying the class, but normally I don't even get a girls number/social media etc till at least a few times I see her in class and get to know her better. I see a lot of these people so often (who take class regularlY) that it feels a lot more like social circle game and not something to rush which I never do.

Well she didn't come back to the class I am hoping she might come back in the next 2 weeks but after that I'm giving up

not much else to say, just an observation or lesson I guess that you really need to go for the close even if ti feels awkward/too soon or you have this regret I have lol. I guess I spent too much time trying to get them to TAKE the class more regularly than the focus that to be to just her contact info in case she never came back.


All just to say I feel very regretful and sad right now lol sucks since I meet people a lot and this was someone I was super into on a physical level

 

[Stanley]

Make sure it's hot

 

[Mike32ct]

Yeah that's the tough part. At first, you feel like you don't want to be too aggressive/forward at the first meeting, but then you miss the opportunity.

For any recreational class, there is no guarantee that they will return. It's not like an academic class where they need the credit.

 

[TheProspect]

First off,
You met a chick that you found physically attractive, think you ”click with her” based off one interaction, obsessed over the idea of seeing her again, and now you’re sad you didn’t. Sounds like you’re on the highway to onenitus my friend, and you haven’t even banged this chick.
No woman is special just because she's physically attractive. Be mindful going forward of any subtle pedestalizing you may do in your head, as it's a slippery slope for your emotions, and that eventually leads to a frame you don't want to be operating from.

Secondly,
If you met her during a class you were only attending once, then yeah, you should have made your move then.
However, you said you attend this class regularly, and therefore you want to run social circle game and think long-term…

I taught both fitness & yoga classes for 4 years. I’ll share something I posted a few years ago that details thinking long-term in this context (especially the last paragraph). See below:

I am certified as a yoga instructor and I teach classes weekly at a few different yoga studios. 95%+ of clients are female.

Do not start taking classes with the intention of picking up girls. Go because you actually want to do yoga. After you’ve become a familiar face over an extended period of time and have built rapport, then things can change.

Many women do take their yoga studio as a safe place and it really is a ladies social hour as @Espi put it.

Trust me when I say that girls taking classes, and the instructor teaching it, can figure out pretty quickly what a guy’s intentions are. Even if you do actually like yoga, but simultaneously have secondary ambitions to pick up chicks, we will know. Energy and vibes really affect the atmosphere at a studio, and regulars & instructors can tell when somethings off.

Even as an instructor, I had to build comfort and rapport. That took time. Girls eventually saw that I was there to teach yoga because I love yoga and I take my own practice seriously. My classes are the most booked now, but it took awhile to develop that positive reputation after consistently conveying good intentions.

And also trust me, any girl who goes to yoga and takes it seriously isn’t going to be genuinely receptive to a new guy hitting on her, even if she comes off that way in the moment. She may be act nice and might even give you her number, but you can bet she’ll tell other girls and the instructor about you in an unflattering light. And on the off chance you do successfully pull as a new member, the quality of the chick is questionable at best, and she is likely very emotionally damaged.

My opinion would be to just regularly attend classes for awhile and don’t try to strike up a conversation (beyond “hi” / “bye”) before or after class unless they initiate. Demonstrate that you’re there for yoga and not chicks. Over time, as the regulars and instructors grow comfortable with your presence, you can gradually interact more with others and begin to build rapport and even develop a social circle. As a new member, don’t bite too fast on any chick who seems interested, it could potentially ruin your reputation and hurt your chances of creating comfort at the studio, and thus, developing a social circle down the line. Ultimately, that would be an ideal situation — a social circle of hot women that gives you instant social proof. Play the long-term game.

 

[SW15]

I see a lot of these people so often (who take class regularlY) that it feels a lot more like social circle game and not something to rush which I never do.

At best, a fitness class is something like weak social circle game. I would call fitness class a cold approaching scenario. Some of this is venue dependent.

Fitness classes are not that great of an option. Fitness classes solve the ratio and earbud problem, which seem to be 2 of the biggest problems in general gym floor game. Most classes are majority female. However, most women are not very sociable in the 5 mins before or after fitness classes. Many of these women have boyfriends or husbands, which is a big problem with daygame in general. In daygame venues, you can't screen for women with boyfriends/husbands not looking for new penis so it is inevitable that you will approach a woman with a boyfriend or husband. I've tended to go to fitness class venues with in areas where mostly unmarried people reside, so I can easy minimize the husband problem, but I can't minimize the boyfriend problem.

I met this girl in a workout class I go to regularly and she was super cool, clicked w her and she was definitely my type I go for. she was w 2 friends and they were trying the class, but normally I don't even get a girls number/social media etc till at least a few times I see her in class and get to know her better.

Well she didn't come back to the class I am hoping she might come back in the next 2 weeks but after that I'm giving up

All just to say I feel very regretful and sad right now lol sucks since I meet people a lot and this was someone I was super into on a physical level

You're overthinking this one. You don't even know if she was open to new penis or not.

In general, you have to arrange the first date and get the number on the first conversation. You never know if a woman will return to a class again.

The fact that you were able to get an approach in on a woman who came to a class with friends is an achievement. The better approach targets in general are women who go to fitness classes alone since you already have built-in isolation. Built-in isolation is a key asset of daygame and it is something absent from nightgame. Approaching women with friends in non-bar venues is something that can easily be avoided, which cannot be avoided in nightgame.

 

[RazorRambo24]

I feel ya but women are everywhere. Can't get caught up on one ... when you start gettin good at cold approach u realize opportunities are everywhere and endless. Can get a bit wild tho if u start capitalizing-- jus gets exciting and u lose control and sense of caution and just end up lookin like a real womanizer lol..

The funny thing though is people shouldn't look at it like its a "thing".. "cold approach".. really its just socializing theres no difference.. people talk to each other all the time, its just gotta make sense.. I haven't approached it like I'm doing "pickup" in a long time.. To me its just a natural instinct nowadays..

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Yeah that's the tough part. At first, you feel like you don't want to be too aggressive/forward at the first meeting, but then you miss the opportunity.

For any recreational class, there is no guarantee that they will return. It's not like an academic class where they need the credit.

yup 100% tricky situation but good know for future

 

[PlatoPacks23]

I feel ya but women are everywhere. Can't get caught up on one ... when you start gettin good at cold approach u realize opportunities are everywhere and endless. Can get a bit wild tho if u start capitalizing-- jus gets exciting and u lose control and sense of caution and just end up lookin like a real womanizer lol..

The funny thing though is people shouldn't look at it like its a "thing".. "cold approach".. really its just socializing theres no difference.. people talk to each other all the time, its just gotta make sense.. I haven't approached it like I'm doing "pickup" in a long time.. To me its just a natural instinct nowadays..

yup just a situation that needed to be done differently despite what I normally do, goo know for future.

 

[MtmVaott]

I met this girl in a workout class I go to regularly and she was super cool, clicked w her and she was definitely my type I go for. she was w 2 friends and they were trying the class, but normally I don't even get a girls number/social media etc till at least a few times I see her in class and get to know her better. I see a lot of these people so often (who take class regularlY) that it feels a lot more like social circle game and not something to rush which I never do.

Well she didn't come back to the class I am hoping she might come back in the next 2 weeks but after that I'm giving up

not much else to say, just an observation or lesson I guess that you really need to go for the close even if ti feels awkward/too soon or you have this regret I have lol. I guess I spent too much time trying to get them to TAKE the class more regularly than the focus that to be to just her contact info in case she never came back.


All just to say I feel very regretful and sad right now lol sucks since I meet people a lot and this was someone I was super into on a physical level

Focus on what's natural to you. I've been in situations like this and both applies. It can be the best to be direct and get the contact, or to let you and her get to know each other in the same setting over a prolonged time.
If you don't feel like it, but the class will cease in some weeks, or she might not come back, then when you ignore that discomfort and force yourself, you a) disrespect yourself and b) repel her. Then it was just fate.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Focus on what's natural to you. I've been in situations like this and both applies. It can be the best to be direct and get the contact, or to let you and her get to know each other in the same setting over a prolonged time.
If you don't feel like it, but the class will cease in some weeks, or she might not come back, then when you ignore that discomfort and force yourself, you a) disrespect yourself and b) repel her. Then it was just fate.

yeah had she (or might) have taken a few more classes it'd work out really well getting to know each other, just appears like she isn't coming back as of now. I don't get your 2nd paragraph haha

 

[MtmVaott]

yeah had she (or might) have taken a few more classes it'd work out really well getting to know each other, just appears like she isn't coming back as of now. I don't get your 2nd paragraph haha

If you would feel insecure or uncomfortable asking her for her number, but the class will end in a few weeks or she may not come back, and you ignore that discomfort and still force yourself to ask her for the number, then you are a) not respecting yourself and b) disgusting her. In such cases, it's just not meant to be.