"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Meet people?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
War Against Betaism
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HandyAndy said:
start approaching girls, start working out, start being confident, start reading the HS bible. popularity will come. girls that never noticed u existed will start to see your improvements and draw to you. have relationships with the hot girls only and keep the average looking ones around to fvck.
once u do this people will forget about the old you so dont let the old you hold you back from rising the fvck up.
Crazy Asian
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I still have approaching troubles, like I dont know what to say.smooth guy
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Stay fit and be confident, go to school with the urge to meet new people and a lot of girls. Naturally I'm pretty known in my school and that is because I can talk to anyone, but that comes to me naturally. Approaching in school can't be very difficult since there are a lot of reasons why you would want to approach somebody. All you gotta do is talk to people. When people see that you're a sociable guy they'll get to know you.. by the time summer is back you'll make tons of friends. Same tactic goes for girls.
Join the football or the basketball team. Just join any group so you can find people that share the same interest or sport with you. Thats also another great way to make friends. I have a few friends in the football team of my school, its really great how they're all connected to each other.
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Doesn't seem like you know a lot about making friends.mpimpin said:
Obviously not in that context.Crazy Asian said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
pooparu
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Go into school, if you are a freshmen, even better, walk up to the first person you see and start talking. I say its better if you are a freshmen because either:
1. You are all gonna be new in a big school.
2. You have been in the school for a while (like a 6-12 school) and you can easily make friends with the new people.
3. You are new, in a school where alot of people know each other. This seems bad, but all the schools I've changed to are like this, and I make friends ASAP. Most people ALWAYS ask, "Hey are you new" if you look friendly/cool enough to talk to (which isn't hard, as long as you aren't hideous).
Get some clothes that make you look nice (not nice lookings clothes, everyone has a style that works for them), get your hair cut, look fresh as possible (you don't have to be jacked to be fresh. I've got a friend who gets a lot of ***** and he's not jacked at all), and just keep a smile on and kick back and relax like you own the place. People will wanna know who the **** this newcomer thinks he is trying to own their place, or why they haven't noticed some kid like you, and from their you can suck them into your world. It's not something that should be thought about, just react.
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PERFECT advice!pooparu said:
Plec07
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Mpimpin have a read through some of Ross Jefferies' stuff and you'll find that copying breathing speed, mimicing hand jestures that people use when you repeat the same word they used, talking at same voice level and tone (not pitch), and sitting in similar positions (eg. resting hand on knee) are all ways of building rapport through the target's subconcious.mpimpin said:
And to anybody thinking this is utter Bullsh*t it's been proven by psychologysts and is a trick Darren Brown regularly uses on his tv shows if you wish to see it done to perfection from a spectator's view look up something by him on youtube.