Meet at bar article

[Hamurabimbi]

https://www.realclearscience.com/blog/2022/07/27/the_best_way_to_introduce_yourself_to_someone_youre_attracted_to_840851.html

 

[Bible_Belt]

I feel a little embarrassed about this, but I'd like to meet you.

It's intriguing by presenting a mixed message, bold enough to approach, yet revealing weakness at the same time.

 

[SW15]

I used the standard opener from Roosh's "Bang" in bars for many years and it went well. It's also a better line than any of those 1989 lines in the article.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Not worth it, setting the wrong tone for the remainder of the interaction and dating.

The article said the guy was ‘medium attractiveness’. I’d imagine the lines should be callibrated towards your attractiveness. I couldn’t imagine Don Draper doing #6.

 

[MatureDJ]

I'm not buying this at all.

 

[SW15]

What is it?

Edit: I hunted the answer myself... He either used "Hey, you look like you're having the most fun here". Or "Hey, you look like you're from xyz".

I used "Hey, you look like you're having the most fun here". It's easy to memorize and use. You can also use that one at private events when approaching strangers too.

Hey, you look like you're from xyz".

When my 6'4" former NCAA athlete friend used to spam approach in bars, he would open with asking the women where they were originally from. That's a slight variation of this. It also worked in the yuppie bar area of my city where there are a lot of transplanted adults immediately after college. It mainly worked due to his height.

 

[thelambofdeth]

lol #5 has the perfect opener for modern, blue hair betas.

 

[IKO69]

I read the article, some of those can work depending on the personality type, but some of them are kind of hokey like the "embarrassed" one. Skip that part, most women understand going up to them is going to be a bit awkward - it is the case for both genders, especially when there is mutual interest.

My last experience at bar isn't really educative because I didn't do anything and these two women sent a rando guy there to talk to me and introduce us, but I will tell you what I have typically done. So I will have sat at the bar and have scanned the environment. Let's say I notice another woman at the bar that I find attractive. I will keep looking at her from time to time until I know for sure she has noticed and she wants me to talk to her. She directly looks at me, smiles and looks away or something. When that happens I then have gone over and have said a variation of something like "Hi, you seemed interesting and I thought i'd come over". Have also used "I haven't seen you around here before and wanted to say hi". I would then tell her my name, get hers, and then ask something about what she's drinking or how often she's been there and take it from there. If she is in a group then you don't focus on just one woman specifically, but open the entire group. If any of the woman in the group finds you attractive (the group would have known and talked about it long before you came over), the group as a whole will integrate you into it.

In situations where they sit next to you at the bar (when there is lots of available space/they could sit some place else and are making it obvious) all you have to do is say hi and ask what they are drinking or something.

Keep it simple and straightforward. If you *try* to be super slick you will almost always fail. The right words and actions come out when you are RELAXED and not trying so hard.

 

[2Rocky]

There is so much more than just the line. There is eye contact, open body language, the vibe and mood of the place and time....

I seriously got invited to meet a woman at the bar after a celebration of life we were both at...

That's a good use of the last line....

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The simplest one I've found at a bar is simply saying "Hello".

I literally had a woman follow me around the entire night from a simple Hello as she walked in and past me as I was waiting for drinks at a crowded bar.