"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Meditation

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You'd have to pay me to do that shıt.
 

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Passive is an alpha trait? Is this a joke?

I thought aggression was a masculine trait.

Or am I being trolled?

By the way I meditate in the sauna for 10 minutes after I work out. I also meditate at night for 23 mins.
 

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VladPatton said:
You'd have to pay me to do that shıt.
You are stupid.

SeymourCakePassive said:
is an alpha trait? Is this a joke?

I thought aggression was a masculine trait.

Or am I being trolled?

By the way I meditate in the sauna for 10 minutes after I work out. I also meditate at night for 23 mins.
Yes Alphas are aggressive yet passive. Betas are 100% passive, in fact alphas are really 100% aggressive, so I like to call it Alpha the Omega or a Dj
 

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LMAO


Shut your mouth, little girl. You know nothing. Stuff your bra, change your tampon, and go get some dıck. :crackup:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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VladPatton said:
How did you get to the number of 23 minutes, Seymour??? Why not 22, 20, or 25?
I'm 23 years old so I go in accordance to the amount of minutes based on my age.
 

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There are great benefits to meditation....i meditate with qigong usually daily for half an hour and then meditate in my bed each night for about 30-40 mins before i sleep...the benefits are endless mentally, spiritually and physically......you don't need to go to some resort to learn....for basic meditation each night just lay on your back in your bed and focus only on your breathing and nothing else...basic meditation is keeping your mind strictly on one thing or nothing at a time for extended periods of time and when you get good at it you will find it quite pleasurable.....most people don't realize just how clouded their mind's are and how much it bogs them down each day...

for something more advanced, find a qigong teacher...the qigong that i learned is very powerful...it completely alters the way i feel each day and only takes half an hour to do each day......any more than that literally feels too strong for me...
 

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zinc4 said:
There are great benefits to meditation....i meditate with qigong usually daily for half an hour and then meditate in my bed each night for about 30-40 mins before i sleep...the benefits are endless mentally, spiritually and physically......
There is an Indian proverb that says that everyone is a house with four rooms, a physical, a mental, an emotional, and a spiritual . Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time but unless we go into every room every day, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person.
 

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Meditation is good. If you want to learn how to have a stable and calm mind then it will work wonders. To talk it down without having any understanding about it is beyond ignorant and stupid.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Olivia, Facebook is a much better place for attention vvhoring.
 

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Nah fb sucks, because there is too many acquaintance. Here I don't need to hear that 'attention *****' thingy as many times as there.
And let me add a little bit: What is wrong with attention *****. As I see it, you are also being a attention *****! otherwise you would just ignore me.. Now then again, I enjoy this, and if you call discussing things here a attention horing - where its supposed to be discussed, then Im glad I am a attention *****. There must be something wrong with you! There must.. because in a place where you are supposed to discuss things, why be quiet? Why not talk. And in a place where you are allowed to talk and seek attention of people, now will you do the opposite? - not seeking attention. This is just stupid.

Adam: yes I have spent few days now doing meditation and it does wonders. Before trying I was like no way..

TheFap Princess. Yes For little piece of sluts. Just kidding :rock:

Zing: This Qiqong sounds interesting. I will try it when I get deeper into this basic meditation!

SeymourCake said:
There is an Indian proverb that says that everyone is a house with four rooms, a physical, a mental, an emotional, and a spiritual . Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time but unless we go into every room every day, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person.
Interesting. Now I think that is only a symbol. For example, if we don't know how to relax, our action will be a kind of disturbance. So life should be all dimensional. The vaster, the more complete life is.
 

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Olivia said:
As I see it, you are also being a attention *****!
projecting much, Oblivia?

Olivia said:
There must be something wrong with you!
Where is there, sweetie?

This is a place for debating somewhat targeted topics. Attention vvhoring and trolling is wasting time.
 

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Olivia said:
Interesting. Now I think that is only a symbol. For example, if we don't know how to relax, our action will be a kind of disturbance. So life should be all dimensional. The vaster, the more complete life is.

You should read the book "As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen. He was a 1800s British philosopher that goes in detail about how our thoughts shape our lives. If you want to to listen to the audio book, check it out on YouTube for free. Here's the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fYaY6BFvGeA
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Olivia said:
You are stupid.



Yes Alphas are aggressive yet passive. Betas are 100% passive, in fact alphas are really 100% aggressive, so I like to call it Alpha the Omega or a Dj

Oi... I'd call it "assertive".

Aggressive without making an ass of yourself.
It's more masculine than anything. You can remain cool and push forward without having to seem like you're trying too hard (because you're not).

My favorite assertiveness technique is to do the "+-+" thing.

If you need to tell someone something, or you want to complain about something in some way to get a bit of help, start with a genuine positive statement, and then bring the bad news, and then make another positive statement. Positive, negative, positive.


Example:
"Hey, this fair is ****ing awesome and the rides are sweet, but I just worked out like crazy last night, so my legs are killing me just standing around constantly. Let's take a seat. We can have some delicious cotton candy!"

Simple, really. Positivity first. Real men don't get butthurt and angry over stupid sh!t, but they're also not passive and inactive. We're DJs, but buddhists. Nihilism does not have to take the path of inaction.

On another note, meditation is a great stress reliever and great for introspection on many levels, including (I know it sounds "Crazy") spiritual levels.
 

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Whatever it takes to keep my Jolly Roger fluttering at full mast...including meditation.
 
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