"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Meditation November 2017 Challenge

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Similiar to our NoFap challenge, meditation November challenge will be to practice meditation daily to help it become a habit. I used to be disciplined with meditation 5~25 minutes a day for a while until I let life get busy and it fell out of habit. I can remember feeling more chill and relaxed. I didn't let every little small thing bother me. I was less reactionary. In other words, I thought more clearly with consideration before I gave my answer.

There are numerous benefits to meditation that I won't get in to great deal as I have in previous threads. Here's a few URLs that you can do your own research:
https://www.artofliving.org/us-en/meditation/meditation-for-you/benefits-of-meditation
http://liveanddare.com/benefits-of-meditation/
http://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation/art-20045858
http://ineedmotivation.com/100-benefits-of-meditation/

Recent SS threads on meditation:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/meditation.238515/#post-2425292
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/meditation-tonis-365-day-adventure.243306/#post-2478820
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/meditate-read-gym-game-repeat.243872/

I'll begin November 1st and report back in this thread time to time. I'm going to start with 5 mins. in the first week, then 10, then 15, then 20 minutes daily by week 4. Anyone else game and need some accountability? This is your meditation thread for November. :)

You can follow simple breathing techniques to begin meditation or you can find a few meditation apps on your smart phone app store like Headspace, Calm, Breathe2Relax, Meditation, and Pacifica.

Interesting video:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I did a meditation exercise for 10 minutes before bed and I fell asleep quicker than normal last night.

Going to keep the habit moving forward.

I would be interested in hearing others who have a consistent disciplined habit of mediation and their thoughts on how it effects inner game and over all well-being.

In other words, how did it effect your ability to be present in the moment and an active listener in set?
 
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