Media,tv and the decline of the don juan

[naturalzen]

I'm just curious but is it me or does American society want young redblooded men with testesterone to be afc. Look at the porn industry and look at MTV. If your not scoring with girls than you definately should feel ashamed! Well don't feel bad you can jerk off to a girl on tv rather than get real sex or better yet you can pay for a hooker and have sex. Wtf? I'm so infuriated there is 50 percent females in the united states. Definately no shortage what so ever of *****, but why the utter confusion. Why am I turning on the tv and watching good well off men compete for a single woman on the bachelorette and showing americas youth that finding love means jumping through hoops and competing with other men when in all actuallity shouldnt be. Why has america been dooping and ****ing young men around with ***** power. How many here believe that we should never ever compete for women or am I the only one? I live in a college town and im sorrounded by guys willing to jump each other silly in the name of getting women to bed them . I see it in the bars I see it at parties I see it every where. Why are men talking down and fighting one another when in all actuallty we should be helping each other get the women and let the chips fall where they may.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

TV is glamour, fairytales and myths... It's the gloryportrait everyone sees as romantic and right.... That's why. TV is a dreamworld, not reality.

 

[naturalzen]

One other thing. yes my game is intact but it makes it much harder when you have male haters doing everything possible to bring you down to their level. It means less time with women and more time keeping a watchful eye on who is trying to bring you down.

 

[naturalzen]

well kinetic your right... but the mtv and the media and a lot of other shows want young men to conform to what ever they wish.. look at oprah ,ricki lake, and ****en reality tv shows etc etc.... those shows are based upon society and how we should shape young men into ***** whipped compete for the girl type of guys. Dont give me that fantasy bull**** either tv plays a very important role on how americans think. Look at gay men today.. they are in vogue and so are black men. 20 to 30 years ago it was a crime to be either of the two. Im not saying all media is bad.. but this supplicating and competing for women bull**** has got to stop.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Why are you whining? If it fvcks up more peoples game it's better for you that does NOT conform to society.

 

[naturalzen]

thats the thing kinetic its ****ing up the world im living in . I cant even go to a bar without men fighting each other over *****. get where im coming from? there is no solidarity among men anymore in social settings where there really need not be any competition and that to me is physically dangerous and emotionally dangerous. thats why kinetic!

 

[jakethasnake]

Kinetic is right. Stop whining. Lead by example. Show those goons that brotherhood is alive and well.

 

[Blurred Elevens]

Let me alert you to something. TV makes people out as something they're not. Take the biggest dork in the world, put him on TV and he's cool. I bet you were blown away when you found out Michael J Fox is only like 5 feet tall....case in point. Kill your TV and hop into the real world. **** Corporate sponsored reality.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Originally posted by naturalzen
thats the thing kinetic its ****ing up the world im living in . I cant even go to a bar without men fighting each other over *****. get where im coming from? there is no solidarity among men anymore in social settings where there really need not be any competition and that to me is physically dangerous and emotionally dangerous. thats why kinetic!

Seriously I NEVER see this. Only thing I've noticed of this is that I was briefly chatting with some girl while sitting with some mates and her bf poured a drink down the back of my shirt (Didn't see him...). I just frowned and walked away, that's the ONLY time I've seen anything like that.

ALL my friends here I live now are AFCs (My best boys back home too except one but he is really gayish, great dancer, really exhibitionist etc...) It does NOT bother me at all, I actually enjoy being the guy that people admire for his boldness and forwardness and smoothness. Whenever I'm at parties and I'm talking with girls on the phone I'm always like "Hey darling" etc and they all talk low like "Oh he's gotta score tonight" and they start smiling etc. Why? Because THEY would like to be the one talking straight up with girls like that.

I have a really good friend here, he'll sit and talk with our fellow girlfriends and they'll give him lots of attention etc and they'll see him as a potential LTR but none of them want him... I went out with three of the girls, they were all over me on the dancefloor, when we walked they had their arms around me and in my backpockets etc.

See you just gotta BE YOURSELF, play YOUR GAME, don't give a FVCK about others. Sure boys stare at me when I'm out with my girls or if I'm hitting clubs and dancing it up. I have nothing against standing on a stage dancing my ass of infront of everyone. Chicks like it, boys don't. Do I care? No, why? Cause it isn't hurting anyone and it makes me have fun

So just try and focus on YOURSELF and your OWN fun and your personal universe. The moment you start to care like you do it ruins your mojo, it makes you doubt, insecure etc.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

These boys are clamoring for wh@res -- go after a virtuous woman and you wont find the pvssy hounds around (although there are extremely few virtuous women).