"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Me V An Natural

DJsparky

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My friends a natural and for some reason he steals all the girls i get with or attract... So i was thinking about what he does, he mirror's there feelings, mirrors them, his better looking then me but what i dont get is he relates so much better by mirroring and im my own self, i dont fake the mirroring he gives into girls quicker then i do, but he attracts them quicker and friday is coming up and his already attracted this girl from me, its going to be a bummer because shes coming to see me but his not the bro's before ho's type he'll flirt with her but the problem isnt that its the fact that his a natural and steals EVERY girl its like i cant win, its a battle between me and him, and his the new age sensitive type i want to win this time, any tips?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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wayword

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Sounds like you can approach, attract and raise BT - but he knows how to build rapport/comfort and swoops in to takeover where you left off.

So, work on your rapport/comfort-building phase. Use mirroring, psychoanalysis, cold-reading, etc to find your HP.
 

mountain

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don't create a self-actualizing prophecy for yourself by believing you can't beat him. he's not going to take every girl from you if you man up and make moves.
 

Dannyrt34

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What a great friend. I actually think you should learn from him. But until you get better, maybe don't take the girls that interest you around him.

Sounds like a plan!
 
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