"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Me and my best friend's girlfriend just got into an argument about attraction?

MusicMan450

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So, I'm pretty good friends with my friend's girlfriend. We kind of give each other tips and stuff when it comes to relationships.

We got into the whole "It's harder for men to attract women than vice-versa" thing. So I, being completely blunt, explained how attraction works for males. We basically look for a girl that we find amazingly attractive, and we decide to go for her. After a while I explained that, as time goes on, attractiveness becomes a little less important and more personal and emotional matters come to hand, but that beauty is what first attracts a guy.

Now she's pissed at me and all other guys who think this way.

Was I wrong for doing this? I'm not talking about whether this will hurt me getting with her, as I have no intention of that, but was it wrong for a friend to be completely honest with a friend?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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lol, please, don't be sorry.

Simply, her vanity is butthurt - goes double if she's HB6 or less.
 

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A good rule to remember.

Never talk about how the game works with women.

Even if you get your point across you lose.
 

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Slickster said:
A good rule to remember.

Never talk about how the game works with women.

Even if you get your point across you lose.
Rule #1 You do not talk about fight club
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Slickster said:
A good rule to remember.

Never talk about how the game works with women.

Even if you get your point across you lose.
or men for that matter. it feels so "nasty" to some men.It never ends well. they will either be butthurt, hate you, or try their damnest to prove you wrong
 

Chickfight

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Wow, she needs to get off her high horse.
I usually use my wolf-cow analogy: Guys are like wolves, we gotta chase our prey and hunt them down. Girls are like cows. All they gotta do if they want to get hunted is stand around looking delicious and go "moo".
Always gets a laugh. Maybe it's just how you present it.
 

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Never talk about the game, You keep it to yourself.
 

Blusher

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Slickster said:
A good rule to remember.

Never talk about how the game works with women.

Even if you get your point across you lose.
My experience tells me the absolute opposite. It's a prime subject of conversation and one i'd be hard pressed to avoid given the nature of my job.

What I wouldn't have expected a few years ago is that they mostly shere the same views. There's no big secret, that Fight club analogy is a bit childish.
 

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Chickfight said:
Wow, she needs to get off her high horse.
I usually use my wolf-cow analogy: Guys are like wolves, we gotta chase our prey and hunt them down. Girls are like cows. All they gotta do if they want to get hunted is stand around looking delicious and go "moo".
Always gets a laugh. Maybe it's just how you present it.
hahaha
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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