Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
Seriously.... it is gettin to the point that no one seems to be learning
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dito.Originally posted by PRMoon
I think just giving people a different perspective on a situation or problem they're having is reason enough to have the forums. I definatly don't take all the advice I read from other people because I do have a mind of my own and I'll concider things before implicating them. I do however read what people are saying and THINK about what they're saying. Everyone has a different perspective, and if what i'm reading is crap then it's really up to me to see that.
Sure there's alot of bad advice going around out there, but it's up to the person who posed the question to use their brain and weed out whats bad from what's not. After reading the bible, anybody should be able to tell good advice from bad advice. If they don't take that first step, it's really their own fault if they go out and try to utilize some one's bad advice.