"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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maybe, she's 'just a b!tch'?

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I'm not completely sure, but I feel as if I am in the advanced stages of being able to read people quickly. So having countless dealings with women, I noticed a few things...

When we naturally try to figure things out, sometimes we miss things that are right in front of our faces.

IOW...When we have a good frame, naturally, the b!tches will unhapply bounce off it.

There are no masculine femninists. We are already above these ladies. Odds are, Masculinity is at war with feminism.

We want to put her in a good light, but most times, she's 'just a b!tch'.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Being attracted to someone clouds your normal character judgement IMO. You have to be doubly careful to judge character wisely if the hormones are going.

I've seen so many people in relationships with others who are clearly, simply just w*nkers of the highest order. But they're convinced that "he/she's just complex, they're actually great".

When I've looked back in absence of attraction to some girls I went on dates with I think "Jeez, she was awful, why the f*ck did I do that?"
 

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a strong frame is like bug repellent to predatory women. IME they will simply move on once they realize you’re on the up and up.
 

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Being attracted to someone clouds your normal character judgement IMO. You have to be doubly careful to judge character wisely if the hormones are going.

I've seen so many people in relationships with others who are clearly, simply just w*nkers of the highest order. But they're convinced that "he/she's just complex, they're actually great".

When I've looked back in absence of attraction to some girls I went on dates with I think "Jeez, she was awful, why the f*ck did I do that?"
That's funny... I was engaged at 22. I broke it off, after she rubbed a guy in my face. Her feminist manframe made it impossible for her to recover the relationship. I was extremely turned off by it, I just wanted to be alone. All her efforts failed.
 
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Being attracted to someone clouds your normal character judgement IMO. You have to be doubly careful to judge character wisely if the hormones are going.

I've seen so many people in relationships with others who are clearly, simply just w*nkers of the highest order. But they're convinced that "he/she's just complex, they're actually great".

When I've looked back in absence of attraction to some girls I went on dates with I think "Jeez, she was awful, why the f*ck did I do that?"
So does being attractive...studies always show that attractive people have positive attributes attached to them even if there is no basis for believing them to have those attributes
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That's funny... I was engaged at 22. I broke it off, after she rubbed a guy in my face. Her feminist manframe made it impossible for her to recover the relationship. I was extremely turned off by it, I just wanted to be alone. All her efforts failed.
It’s shocking to me how so many women willingly destroy themselves in the name of “empowerment”. A big part of my awakening has actually involved a genuine pity for these women....but I still stay far the f*ck away from them.
 

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So does being attractive...studies always show that attractive people have positive attributes attached to them even if there is no basis for believing them to have those attributes
The Halo Effect, right? Also definitely true.

I remember reading that many Kings in the medieval era would get be adored by the public if they were renowned for their looks, although their actual behaviour in ruling was completely psychotic and cruel. Similarly, royals who were progressive and tolerant would regularly still get a bad rep if they had the misfortune to be short or hunchbacked or something.

It’s shocking to me how so many women willingly destroy themselves in the name of “empowerment”. A big part of my awakening has actually involved a genuine pity for these women....but I still stay far the f*ck away from them.
Yep, "empowerment" is often not genuine. Genuinely empowered women are just like empowered men: confident, assured and successful.

But in modern society many girls have taken that for meaning that riding the carousel is somehow a substitute. They end up with zero self esteem, just like a guy who just hooks up with every low value "easy" STI-laden woman he can get.
 

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It’s shocking to me how so many women willingly destroy themselves in the name of “empowerment”. A big part of my awakening has actually involved a genuine pity for these women....but I still stay far the f*ck away from them.
Yep, these women, bought the lie. It's shocking, to me, the number of people not searching after the truth. It's been my life mission.
 

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I remember reading that many Kings in the medieval era would get be adored by the public if they were renowned for their looks
It was the same even farther back in history. King David from the Bible had a son who led a rebellion against him. That son was able to gain followers, because he had nice hair. That was it. The story is like a shampoo commercial.
 

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It was the same even farther back in history. King David from the Bible had a son who led a rebellion against him. That son was able to gain followers, because he had nice hair. That was it. The story is like a shampoo commercial.
"I had problems with dandruff until I tried Head & Shoulders and toppled my Dad's government!"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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