"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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maybe i slipped maybe didnt told her to fu@k off...

Fatal Jay

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did I slip up letting the girl get to me, is it best to show no emotion and just stop talking to her

or did I do some good by telling her to **** off and to go eat a ****

I feel in between because I know your never suppose to show anger, but I felt like this broad should have been put in her place

I let my anger get to me because I haven't bang this chick, which lets me know she is getting banged by someone else.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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eh, it doesnt matter. The reality is you are at this moment a guy that can get all twisted up by a girl. Those are just the facts. What you said or didnt say is irrelevant. You're still AFC.

So at some point you wont be an AFC anymore and everything that comes out of your mouth will be the right thing. You can tell a girl to fvck off or tell her you miss her and either way it will be perfect if you truly have moved past afc/beta like ways of interacting and thinking about girls.
 

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damn, that was deep truth

I can honestly say I still have a little afc in me,but best believe its almost out of my system
 

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Dear Jay,
Not worth wasting sleep over,just keep travelling!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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st_99 said:
So at some point you wont be an AFC anymore and everything that comes out of your mouth will be the right thing. You can tell a girl to fvck off or tell her you miss her and either way it will be perfect if you truly have moved past afc/beta like ways of interacting and thinking about girls.
That's gold!
 

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She text me today

Saying I was an ass and to never call or text again, I told her since she doesn't give a **** why should I

She text back said if I feel that way, then keep it moving, I told her I already have and for her to stop texting me

She sent back a smiley face,and I never responded back

Why do women respond to negativity?
 

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By responding again today you essentially told her that she has gotten to you.

You shouldn't have responded at all.

That smiley face at the end was her way of saying "I win".

Don't give undeserving women an ounce of your attention - ever!!!
 

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In this case it doesn't make any difference. You should have put her in her place and showing a little emotion was not a bad thing at all. Also, you should have pointed to her that you were not texting or calling, she was.
 

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i don't know why but two days ago I reconcile with her, I told her since me and her go to the same church we should reconcile,and she said your good

last night I texted her saying "do you miss me" I have no clue why I wrote that

she just texted me back today texting me "you cant be serious"

I shouldn't respond to that text huh?

im about to go nc with this chick....you guys let me know what I should do next
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fatal Jay said:
i don't know why but two days ago I reconcile with her, I told her since me and her go to the same church we should reconcile,and she said your good

last night I texted her saying "do you miss me" I have no clue why I wrote that

she just texted me back today texting me "you cant be serious"

I shouldn't respond to that text huh?

im about to go nc with this chick....you guys let me know what I should do next
Why do youdo this to yourself? have you read/learned nothing from this site?
 

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Fatal Jay said:
last night I texted her saying "do you miss me" I have no clue why I wrote that

she just texted me back today texting me "you cant be serious"
Assuming your posts are legit, it's time to move on from this one. Get control of your emotions and master yourself, then you'll master her. Seeking her reassurance in such a way clearly killed whatever attraction (if any) was left after your first convo. Move on, learn, and most importantly, be comfortable in your own skin.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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