Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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May need some help with texting post-PoF

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Moneytalks

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So, I messages this girl on PoF. She replied, told me how cute the picture of my sister and I is and how much she likes my uniform (I'm in the navy), talked about the weekend and work. There were ten messages all together, including the opener and the number.

So I text her almost straight away:
Me: Hey, it's Tim from PoF x
Her: Hey sailor :) xx (she took about 40 minutes to reply so I took an hour to respond)
Me: hey, I'm gonna go to sleep now because I have work tomorrow. I'll text you if I get a chance though [genuinely mean that. I'm on some counter terrorism exercise most of the week]. night x
Her: okay then :) Yeah, please do :) Night, sweet dreams. X

So I reckon I'll wait until I finish work at noon, then gym it up and try to set something up for through the week. My text game is atrocious, though
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Maybe I'm doing this wrong, but I really don't have "text game". Especially when it comes to those online dating sites.

Me and the girl will have 2 or 3 email exchanges. On the very last message I'll say something like, "We should grab a beer some time this week. Here's my number. What's yours?"

Once I have the number, the only "text game" I use is, "Hey it's Iceberg. I was thinking we should get a drink at (Bar) on Thursday. How's that work for you?"

There were ten messages all together, including the opener and the number.
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I mean, to be blunt, after 10 messages, what more "game" is left? You said all that you could possibly say via electronic communication. The only thing left to do is MEET and see if you like each other. At this point, in my experience, the WORST thing you could do is "game" her via a new form of communication. Know what I mean? Like, after POF game, you graduate to text game...So what's next? Facebook game? Twitter game?

In summary: No more game is necessary. Either this girl wants to meet or she doesn't. Invite her out. Game her in person.
 
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Exactly what Iceberg and Bradd said.

Have a plan to meet up. No time for twitter texting or running some nonsense game on text.

One, two, three emails on POF. Grab number. CALL or text to setup meet. No time to let them 'think' or get comfy playing texting tennis.
 
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