"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Maxim Magazine advice on dating and age.

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Better to be CALLED a "dirty old man" because you date far younger aged women than to KNOW inside that you are a "warped, FRUSTRATED, old man" because you're stuck with the WRONG woman----of ANY age.
 

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JustDoItAlways said:
The age rule is usually take your age divide by 2 and add 7 (not 9).

This rule goes way back to before biblical times.
Yup. Add 7. You beat me to it.
 

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I say go by one rule; if she's 18 or older, she's game! (provide that is the age of consent in your state). If you're younger than 18, then why are you in the mature forum? ;-)

Hmm, this does make me wonder, is the age of consent 18 in all US states? Does anyone have a link to this broken down by states if its not 18 for all states?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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shadowfox said:
Wow thats an interesting formula I take my age 17/2 =8.5 then add 9 and i need to be looking at girls 1/2 a year older than me, 17.5??? Ok sounds cool.
Something else that's interesting is if you take your age, and consider the rules for this forum, that = you shouldn't be posting here.
 

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all of those magazine subscriptions like Maxim and Stuff are all written by virgins. Why do you think they give such s****y advice on girls??? What do they know about women? They don't know what it's like to make the sexy-time fun with a woman.
 

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My personal rule of thumb was always that for anything serious the normalized age difference would be a woman 10 years younger. Basically I think guys should date women who are on average 10 years younger, but that's just a starting point, not a hard rule for me.

All I'm saying is that if you're dating someone your age, she's probably too old for you. Counter to the popular wisdom, but true I think.

This new "equation" actually works better as a baseline average target maybe, but using it (or any other rule) as a hard limit is just dumb. Using it as a softer sort of guideline might make more sense, for example a 40 year old guy should date women who are around 29, maybe say 24 - 34. When you use it that way it starts to almost work.

But trying to distill something as personal as human relationships into a simple formula is intrinsically bound to failure.
 

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Zhit, I'm gonna have to get rid of the 22 year old baby girl I am seeing.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Its just some maths.. You dont have to do that, but it might be helpful sometimes.. Not that You have to drop girls that You are attracted too, but You may know some are too young for relatio and good just for other stuff.. I think thats what was meant here.
 
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It is plus 7 years- but it really doesn't matter!!! Get the youngest woman possible as allowed by law in your province/state!!!! The feminist hors hate this because they are out of the market and cannot compete with fresh meat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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The only real PROBLEM I have found with dating far younger women, say---about 16 years younger, is that I have a hard time trying to find some common grounds of relate-ability with them OUTSIDE of the bedroom.

But then again, even with women closer to my age, it is STILL quite a task forming a more HOLISTIC type of relationship with them. Communication IS key, but if I have very little in common with them as people, then my battle is always an UPHILL one.

So, when it's all said and done, I STILL prefer younger women because the odds are still BARELY in my favor of finding one who is not TOTALLY poisoned by the hurts of all the stuff she's gone through with the past dudes she's dealt with.

Oh, and the younger women are USUALLY more physically attractive too-----probably because they have not GIVEN UP like far too many women in their mid-to-late thirties and early forties...

And I don't mean to be HARSH about that, but I SEE this phenomena happening all the time where I live.
 

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Maxim is only good for something to look at on the toilet. If that piece of crap mag would concentrate more on how to date girls who are half your age then it would be worth more. If you are middle aged and dating 19yo hotties then the only judgements you will have to face are from men who are jealous of you and women who are jealous of her. :p This is the drawback you must face and it is unavoidable and will never change. But only a lesser man would look to some meaningless algorithm to find out if it's "ok" to date a female.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DoubleA said:
most older women are threatened by younger ones for male companionship...:
- AA
I totally disagree. Most "older" women are more confident and less threatened. Wow, do you really think so?
 

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It's the situation and the people that matter, not the numbers.
 
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