"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mature Women, Online Dating, etc.

HKgunslinger

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OK, I'm a member (paid) at Yahoo Personals, WAS a paid member at Match.com.

On Yahoo:

I'm 22, good looking, c&F by nature, etc. I incorporate that into my profile. I mostly email women 30 and up, literally about one in 20 will even respond with even a "Sorry, age difference is too great" I cover that in my emails to them already. I also include my email address (yes they can read it on YP).

What am I doing wrong? Are most of these women needy-types looking for LTR? 28-45 is my target group, they have to be cute of course.

Out of about 100 emails sent, ONE has turned out ANYTHING for me, a super-cute 43 year old BABE, and that is truly thanks to Yahoo's IM, I saw her online (they'll list that in the profiles) and chatted with her a little. Now she's eating out of my hand.

I'm thinking of ditching Online Dating altogether, not worth my time really, I get literally 50 or so times better luck IRL, with real life you can create chemistry and look her in the eye.

PS -Match is almost total trash, if the girl at the other end isn't a paid member, you might as well forget it. Out of about 75 emails on there, NO REPLIES WHATSOEVER. At $30 a month to just reply, I don't hardly blame them. Oh I DID get about 6 winks on there in a month, some were pretty good-lloking too, but 18-20, too young for my taste.

'Slinger
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mojo604

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What tha ****, man... whats with the old chicks? They dont want nothing with yound dudes... unless its a one-nighter, which 99%of those women online do not want.
 

HKgunslinger

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You could be right. But women hit their horniest at 35 or so, plus the conversation is better and they play less head-games, believe me I know my way around head-games but it's nice to talk to someone who's not immature. I just say on there I'm looking for friends and most of their profiles say the same thing. You don't go online looking for a quick lay, you talk with someone and if you like them maybe you can meet IRL and have some food together. That's the way it works IRL anyway.

'Slinger
 

MrHarris

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There is nothing wrong with dating older women at your age.

1. they have better jobs
2. they can buy you better gifts
3. they love the attention of younger men and to them it's hot and saucy
4. they can be very generous with younger men
5. the sex is so much better cause they have experience
6. less drama and flakeyness of younger chicks

and the benefits go on and on....

Keep it up!
 

sapphire

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Originally posted by HKgunslinger
OK, I'm a member (paid) at Yahoo Personals, WAS a paid member at Match.com.

On Yahoo:

I'm 22, good looking, c&F by nature, etc. I incorporate that into my profile. I mostly email women 30 and up, literally about one in 20 will even respond with even a "Sorry, age difference is too great" I cover that in my emails to them already. I also include my email address (yes they can read it on YP).

What am I doing wrong? Are most of these women needy-types looking for LTR? 28-45 is my target group, they have to be cute of course.

Out of about 100 emails sent, ONE has turned out ANYTHING for me, a super-cute 43 year old BABE, and that is truly thanks to Yahoo's IM, I saw her online (they'll list that in the profiles) and chatted with her a little. Now she's eating out of my hand.

I'm thinking of ditching Online Dating altogether, not worth my time really, I get literally 50 or so times better luck IRL, with real life you can create chemistry and look her in the eye.

PS -Match is almost total trash, if the girl at the other end isn't a paid member, you might as well forget it. Out of about 75 emails on there, NO REPLIES WHATSOEVER. At $30 a month to just reply, I don't hardly blame them. Oh I DID get about 6 winks on there in a month, some were pretty good-lloking too, but 18-20, too young for my taste.

I am pretty much in the same boat and on the verge of giving up online dating altogether.

I have been on match.com for almost 4 months now and I have been quite disappointed in the quality of the women. I am 35, quite good looking and have gotten many e-mails, winks, etc. from quite a few women. But either they ultimately flake or when they do show up they are usually 20-30 lbs heavier than what their pictures depict or look quite older.

Just yesterday, I had a date. The woman shows up at my house and she looks like 15 years older and is 4-5inches shorter than what her picture and profile portrayed. I am not attracted to her at all so I end the date hastily.

The funny thing is that these women make themselves to be someone that they are not and think that they can get away with it. It is kind of insulting when they show up and they look quite different than what they descibed themselves to be.

I can say that I only met several girls that meet my minimal requirements for physical appearance. One was actually very attractive and she ended up at my house for the night. Other than that, not a good experience.

After this brief experiment, I realize that I do much better meeting women IRL.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WaterTiger

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Match.com SUCKS!!!! You think the women are losers? Take a look at the other side of the board & look at the men! JEEEEEZE What a magnificent collection of losers!
 
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