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amazingswayze

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How do you guys feel about beating off to chicks you'll probably never bang in real life? Is masturbation a bad thing? How much is too much? Does it effect your testosterone?

I've read other peoples opinions on sites like yahoo answers, reddit, etc... but I never got the chance to hear what my SS brothers think about it.

What are your thoughts on all the above?
 

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As with all things, moderation matters.

Some people swear by "no fap" challenges, by which I mean going several weeks if not months without wanking. I've tried it and I don't believe it makes a huge difference. There are anecdotes but no real hard evidence that abstaining will kick your testosterone into some kind of overdrive and make you radiate with manliness. Your body will self-regulate through homeostasis. Put off orgasm long enough and you could even have a wet dream, but that's about it.

I've noticed that if I go 5-7 days without I get pretty horny, but after that spike, things settle back to a normal state. My philosophy is not to do it to the point that your willie loses sensitivity, or that it's your only outlet.

As for porn - that's trickier. The internet has made it way too abundant. At least back in the day you still had to leave your house to find it. It can easily enslave your mind...too many images, your mind may believe it's "conquered" women that it has not. Once in a while is fine but again, keep it to a minimum.
 

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Daily jerker here. In my 20's I was good for 3-4x's a day. I'm 44 now but can still manage to get in 2 a day, especially when I'm taking testosterone.

I have absolutely no issues with it. I suspect that the suicide rate for men would be even higher if they didn't jerk off. Masculinity has been repressed to the point that there's fewer and fewer outlets for men to express their sexual desires. The further repressed these impulses become, the stronger their appeal to be released. So I'm personally convinced it's GOOD to masturbate.

I go in phases with porn. Eva Carera, Ariella Fererra, and Deuxma are a few of my faves--and I'm convinced I can bang any of them if I simply paid enough.

Oftentimes I'll masturbate to a chick that I have a date with, only to discover that the masturbatory session was far better than actual sex with the chick.
 
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I've noticed that if I go 5-7 days without I get pretty horny, but after that spike, things settle back to a normal state.
That's very interesting! I read a study which said exactly that; on average testosterone levels have been found to increase for ~7 days and then go back to slightly above normal.
 

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I tried any possible habit in terms of masturbation.

I noticed that if I dont masturbate or have sex for more than two weeks then my performances at the gym drop, fapping too much makes me lazy and akward and kills my endurance in sport.

The best result come when I fap once a week usually on weekend for a single time only (more than once make me lazy again), sometime I can do it 5 times a day to the point I no longer need paper.

I also noticed that when Im pushing hard at the gym and even more when I wrestle my desire to fap increase so does my ability to do it without conseguences.

Regarding porn there are some things which really turn me on but hardly would do in real life, and as Espi said sometime a masturbation session happens to be more satisfactory then a real intercourse with a girl.

At some point I was afraid porn made me less sensitive to girls but then manage to get girls I really found attractive and all the problems disappeared, it was the girls not to be that hot not the porn.
 

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I scheduled a threesome recently. There were a couple of no-shows, but I still had a good time.
 

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I went to the doctor's office, and the nurse told me "Sir, you must stop masturbating."

"But why?" I asked.

"Because I'm trying to examine you!" she said.
 

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Moderation is everything.

I fap like once every 10 days. When i'm faping i have low performance,i feel kinda awkward and also a weird massive bad luck . All these for the next 2 days,after it everything is normal again. When i have long time to fap , i have an unmeasurable lust to fck a chick.

Porn is the worst thing you can do to yourself in my opinion. It shuts down everything i your head,not to mention the countless cases of guys that couldn;t operate normaly while doing sex . For me i don't have yet such issues but i don't want to risk it.
 

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I do it once a week or so, usually with my favorite virus free online porn. Helps me sleep better on nights I'm all wound up from the stress of the day.
 

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Daily jerker here. In my 20's I was good for 3-4x's a day. I'm 44 now but can still manage to get in 2 a day, especially when I'm taking testosterone.

I have absolutely no issues with it. I suspect that the suicide rate for men would be even higher if they didn't jerk off. Masculinity has been repressed to the point that there's fewer and fewer outlets for men to express their sexual desires. The further repressed these impulses become, the stronger their appeal to be released. So I'm personally convinced it's GOOD to masturbate.

I go in phases with porn. Eva Carera, Ariella Fererra, and Deuxma are a few of my faves--and I'm convinced I can bang any of them if I simply paid enough.

Oftentimes I'll masturbate to a chick that I have a date with, only to discover that the masturbatory session was far better than actual sex with the chick.
I like this guy here.
 
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