"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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There are more girls out there, as special as she is. Everybody is special... No one is "more special then" another person, because everyone is unique and different. And I am sure that the only reason you are obsessing about her beauty is because of your emotions you have for her. If I looked at her, I would just think she is a normal girl, I wouldn't make her a godess because I don't have emotions for her, I would just be looking at her neutrally. IF you happen to look at other girls who are cute but are like "she can never replace my ons" or "She's cute and all but I can never like her, I only have eyes for my ons" I'd think better about that.

So go get another girl if this one doesn't like you, no big deal, there are tons more girls. You don't need this one for nothing... There are more hot girls out there, that's for sure. Just as good as this one is.

Plus if you feel that you are somehow less because she doesn't like you, screw that crap. Everyone deserves to be loved and respected as a person, you have your own unique qualities and have to like yourself because of that. If someone doesn't like you, it's because they don't understand you, simple as that. Everyone has value... If she doesn't happen to see it in you, that's fine for you. Remember you don't need her, that just because she doesn't think you are a great person, doesn't mean you are not. Just go find another chick basiclly that is what I am saying, and go improve your self esteem that is independent of what people think about you. It doesn't matter if others think you aren't anything special as long as you know you have value... It's your opinion that matters the most.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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