Desdinova
Master Don Juan
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I would personally like to slap this motherfvcker across the face.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'll help you.I would personally like to slap this motherfvcker across the face.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
women with beards... is nasty!Didnt really listen it all but it looks strange to see a man that moves his eyes and eyebrows so much while talking.
Ehhh, maybe in modern civilized societies somewhat, but territories are conquered and nations are built by amoral men. What is right and moral is subjective. I'm sure the Brits thought it was wrong, when a bunch of radicals dumped their tea in the Boston harbor. It's the same reason I don't sympathize with the native or slave arguments. Raiding, raping, pillaging and enslaving has been going on since the dawn of man. Do you honestly think a few decades of technology changes what is in every man? It's easy to forget where we come from with all these creature comforts afforded to us by who? Amoral men.The issue is that the media portrays masculinity as violence, abuse, power, greed, and so many other horrible things. Those are not tied to masculinity at all, those are weak minded individuals seeking to control others.
A little too simplistic. People have a dual nature. We are where we're at as a result of both moral and immoral acts. It's not right to say the only good things we have are strictly the result of evil. If men were pure evil, they'd never have stopped the raping and pillaging to work on things like medicine, building civilization, etc.It's easy to forget where we come from with all these creature comforts afforded to us by who? Amoral men.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yea, I agree for the most part. Amoral actions pave the way and like I said, right and wrong, evil and good are subjective. Survival is the only right, imo. Thinking things couldn't get that "simple" again is naive. For some ppl, it still is really that simple. I like to think that I have morals and values for the most part, but you put a man in a position, where he has to do what he has to do to make it, you see how much your theoretical and metaphorical morals and values hold weight.A little too simplistic. People have a dual nature. We are where we're at as a result of both moral and immoral acts. It's not right to say the only good things we have are strictly the result of evil. If men were pure evil, they'd never have stopped the raping and pillaging to work on things like medicine, building civilization, etc.
I agree with everything except the bold. I think good/evil is pretty iron-clad. Society shames certain things given the social climate, but what's right and wrong is always still there, just twisted.Yea, I agree for the most part. Amoral actions pave the way and like I said, right and wrong, evil and good are subjective. Survival is the only right, imo. Thinking things couldn't get that "simple" again is naive. For some ppl, it still is really that simple. I like to think that I have morals and values for the most part, but you put a man in a position, where he has to do what he has to do to make it, you see how much your theoretical and metaphorical morals and values hold weight.
Do you think the terrorists aboard Flight 93 represented masculinity any less than the passengers? I don't think good/evil are so ironclad. Ideology and the struggle over ideals has been there since day 1. I don't believe in good vs evil as much as I believe in us vs them.I agree with everything except the bold. I think good/evil is pretty iron-clad. Society shames certain things given the social climate, but what's right and wrong is always still there, just twisted.
As far as survival, I don't think that's a right at all. You can control 80% of what happens to you, not 100%. The only freedom we really have is how we mentally respond to what happens to us. No one can take that away from you.
Again, we live in a very comfortable bubble, in which a huge portion of the world doesn't know. This isn't the reality for many. Do you care to take a guess as to how and why we are "blessed"/able to live this way?As far as survival, I don't think that's a right at all. You can control 80% of what happens to you, not 100%. The only freedom we really have is how we mentally respond to what happens to us. No one can take that away from you.