"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Marrige? RUN!!!!

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Hey guys, I'm 23, but I've been dating women that are 28 or older for a while now so I think it's best to ask you guys.
I've ended a 2 year relationship with a 33 year old, she ended it because she wanted to get married and have kids, but initially she didn't, that's why I dated her, the previous 2 ex's before that happened the same thing... I believe somewhere along the process I give them this notion and change their thoughts...what do you guys think I'm doing wrong?
Also, how does the idea of them running out of time on their biological clocks affect the process of ONS? Are they more likely to want commitment?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's not even just their biological clocks. Women who used to be adamant about not wanting children often change their mind when they are with a man they really care about and feel that they love. Their priorities shift when they feel how nice it is to be in a stable relationship that seems as if it has the potential to grow into a life together.

You are not doing anything wrong, and it's not even all because the women you are dating are older. You just need to be upfront with your beliefs and remind them subtly and frequently that you are not interested in getting married while you are so young. Counter those comments with statements that reinforce the idea that you can still love a woman and be with a woman for a long time without needing a peice of paper to validate the relationship.

Oh, and while their biological clocks aren't the only reason for this, 'time running out' is still a factor in their decision making. If I were you I would lower my minimum age to about 26, and try to find women that are very intelligent with ambitious career goals. A girl who is working very hard in medical school or law school is far less likely to be thinking about her biological clock than a woman who has finished her schooling and is satisfied with her career.
 

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I did the older thing for awhile when I was in my 20's and kind of regret it now. I missed out on some hotties my age or younger. Got smart and went more age appropriate. Age 23 to 33 is a pretty big gap, though it can be done.

I think at 23 you should go 19-27, just my opinion.

You're not doing anything wrong, just need to revise your game plan.

At 23 just date up a storm and don't worry about relationships ... but I would trim that age down a little bit, that is unless the 33-year old is a clone of SI swimsuit model Marissa Miller :D
 

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Thanx guys

Think i'm going to do just that

Ü Ü Ü
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by MichaelangelloB
I'm in the same boat as you, except I get 18 year olds that want to marry me.
Haha, and I thought I had it bad Ü
 
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