You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
i have to disagree.. i think that married women may be easer simply because MOST married women are not saturated with single men at bars/clubs/etc. and when they are they appreciate the attention (in some cases).MacAvoy said:Its a very easy question.
First answer, based on numbers alone, they are harder to game because the majority are not openly on the market and their mind isn't in search mode.
Second answer, if you come across a women thats showing signs, then she's likely easier to game because she's probably searching and on the market. Which makes it easier to game than the typical women who may or may not be on the market.
So to answer your question, it all depends if she's looking for a side piece or not.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
And depends on how long they have been married... ie. newly weds are hard to F... but after 1 year they are back to hoing in many cases.. but you have to be able to offer them something their husband cant...Francisco d'Anconia said:Depends on whether they're happily married or not.
Jesus Christ, did you read what you just wrote?everywomanshero said:Depends. I really mostly only try for married ones or those with a serious bf. If I find out a girl is single I usually leave her alone because I don't want any drama.. unless I know for sure the woman is just wanting to get dirty, I steer totally clear of them. That probably makes me ill-advised on the matter.
very few women are truely single ... so i understand his point...stand said:Jesus Christ, did you read what you just wrote?
You don't want DRAMA -- so you stay away from SINGLE girls, but try messing with MARRIED women?
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
bluemanson said:i think you should. we all know that they talk about sex with each other so why not LOL, especially if she giving you smiles. maybe she wants a good time, no strings attached lol
It is not as strange as it may seem.You don't want DRAMA -- so you stay away from SINGLE girls, but try messing with MARRIED women?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I have to agree especially whith "in the moment" women are all about the moment... In a single moment of lust or hodom or what ever all their morals can be tossed out.. that is why we should judge a woman by her actions not her words..bluemanson said:i think there is a 50/50 chance, To me it doesnt matter if she maried recently or long married, if you can offer the woman what she needs at that moment i dont how you not get a fvck from her,
well i think you just got to get her alone, test the waters with her. see if she wants to, you just never know, Im trying with this girl at tech, she married but damn she fine. giving me all the signals but we email each other at work but when i email something like " lets leave work and go to the beach or something" then she says she just cant. i told her she chicken LOL,Kingpin SkinnyPimp said:Well, for example, today she came over and started talking. And I said jokingly "I'm getting transferred over to your department"
And she smiled and said "come on over I could use you over here"
I just smiled and said "nah I'm good over here" and she walked away.. LOL..
Plus the married woman lives close to my town.. how could I go and sarge her?