ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
Bone her bro. One more step towards immortality! :rockon:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The world can easily do without these things when it comes to marriage. Wedding shops, cake makers, some churches, photographers, wedding planners and the like is all fluff and have no bearing on the quality of a marriage yet they all are looked upon as if it were a blessing from the Pope.speakeasy said:There's nothing wrong with marriage. You guys talk about it like it's a bad thing. If someone decides that marriage is not for them, then to each his own.
Worried about competition?speakeasy said:I think it's great when two people found something special and make the ultimate commitment. Nothing wrong with that. I mean do re really need 150 million playaz for life running around out there anyway?
Good analysis, that is pretty much the norm. I'd also add to #3 that even if there doesn't seem to be any warning signs what so ever, it typically means that they haven't discussed the important stuff yet.backbreaker said:...sadly enough, every marriage for the most part, execpt my dad's, is in one of the following catorogires
1) women "settling" for the nearest man to them with a pulse
2) Men locking up the first thing after being 18 that gave them constant *****.
3) A man doing everything in his power to marry ONE woman that he happened to date more than a year despite obvious waring signs
....
you know you wanna join us!!!fuzzx said:USA, your culture is so ****ed up.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
fuzzx said:USA, your culture is so ****ed up.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yeh but there is no way to stop it... as long as your wife is above a 3 in looks men will be trying to f her and eventually she will let one do it in most cases the women will find a way to blame you for it too...LOL Only solution dont get married.reset said:Bump. The main thing I tell myself is if I were married someday, I wouldn't want this to happen to me. According to this thread that could be considered AFC-logic.
Not that I advocate cheating while in a marriage or pursuing a married woman yourself but being pursued by a married woman is an entirely different event. It still may not be for everyone because of the particular moral code but you can learn a ton about what women really want by "engaging"reset said:Problem solved, I won't get married therefore I don't have to respect other people's marriages, now, lol.
Then you figure, yeah she's going to cheat with anyone. If she's acting this way towards me, then that's in her. Unless I am such an amazing DJ that she acts this way with no other men and I am just bringing this out of her.
I am being pursued. I am not seeking this out. But now it's in my face my minds getting a little screwy.
It's a game to chicks. Sometimes I think men have more of these moral questions than men do. Chicks just do whatever the hell they feel like.
Others will do what they want regardless of what you do or dont.... but yeh women seldom really give a damn... They just pretend to alot...reset said:Problem solved, I won't get married therefore I don't have to respect other people's marriages, now, lol.
Then you figure, yeah she's going to cheat with anyone. If she's acting this way towards me, then that's in her. Unless I am such an amazing DJ that she acts this way with no other men and I am just bringing this out of her.
I am being pursued. I am not seeking this out. But now it's in my face my minds getting a little screwy.
It's a game to chicks. Sometimes I think men have more of these moral questions than men do. Chicks just do whatever the hell they feel like.
FVCK. you guys obviously aren't going to think my thoughts for me and tell me if it's ok.Francisco d'Anconia said:Not that I advocate cheating while in a marriage or pursuing a married woman yourself but being pursued by a married woman is an entirely different event. It still may not be for everyone because of the particular moral code but you can learn a ton about what women really want by "engaging"a woman who in unhappy in her marriage.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
If you dont f her someone else will...reset said:FVCK. you guys obviously aren't going to think my thoughts for me and tell me if it's ok.
Maybe I should just enjoy the ego boost. No plates to married woman is pretty weak.
...And here she is, lol.
Well it's not like they are going to stop making them.DonGorgon said:If you dont f her someone else will...![]()