"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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married and macking?

Are you?

  • married and macking

    Votes: 4 66.7%
  • married and happy

    Votes: 2 33.3%

  • Total voters
    6

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Eternal

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Originally posted by saki
ayight i go over there den. Am i the only one that has a damn ball n chain? shiitt and im young too:(
I'll help by tossing this over there.

Moved to Mature Man forum.
 

Desdinova

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Am i the only one that has a damn ball n chain?
If you're referring to her as a ball and chain, why the fvck are you married to her? A woman should add happiness to a man's life, not take it away.

I'm married, and I don't consider her a ball and chain. She has decided to join me on the path of life and adventure.

Also, I don't go out and "mack". I go out and I'll initiate conversation with strangers; male, female, old, young. I don't need to go out and keep my game up because at this time I don't need my game. When you're married, you should be married for life. You should be with someone who will enhance your life. If she doesn't enhance your life, then you shouldn't be married to her.
 

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Man pleaz, you act like your life is some fvcking fairy tale with a happy ending, this is real life.
Just because your life is 5hit, it doesn't mean everyone elses is.

and whats up with you, u aint got no sense of humor or what?
Show me what's funny about your post and I'll try to laugh.

you must be one whipped mofo if you cant even refer to marriage as a ball n chain,
If you have a ball and chain on your leg, you're not going anywhere. Who's the whipped one? You obviously don't have any respect for your wife if you're referring to her as a burden.

Why you even visit this site then?
I'm here to help others get their life and attitude together like I have.

macking=initiated convo with women laddie,
So if I'm initiating convo with some guy, I'm macking him?

Oh and if you so happy why do you initiate convo with strangers,
Because I have good social skills. :rolleyes:
 
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Originally posted by Desdinova
If you're referring to her as a ball and chain, why the fvck are you married to her? A woman should add happiness to a man's life, not take it away.

I'm married, and I don't consider her a ball and chain. She has decided to join me on the path of life and adventure.

Also, I don't go out and "mack". I go out and I'll initiate conversation with strangers; male, female, old, young. I don't need to go out and keep my game up because at this time I don't need my game. When you're married, you should be married for life. You should be with someone who will enhance your life. If she doesn't enhance your life, then you shouldn't be married to her.
Amen brutha!!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Happily married 8.5 years now. In that time I've had 2 opportunities to cheat in complete confidence and I turned both down. It's more than just 'being gentelmanly' or being whipped. It's about cosidering what you stand to lose in the action. I have a 6 year old daughter, if I cheat on my wife I cheat on her too. I have a BFA and a BS in Psychology because my wife was understanding. If I cheat on her I cheat on that too. My wife is 40 and looks better than 98% of the girls I see on campus (no lie) because she wants to stay in shape for me. If I cheat on her I cheat on that perseverance. It's more than just losing half of what you own and this shouldn't be the deterent from cheating anyway.

At 36 I'm a good looking guy, I've had chicks in their 20's come on to me. I don't cheat because not only do I love my wife, but I love what we have together. Is it tough, oh yeah,..is it worth it? Definitely.

What does all of that mean? As a guy, be selective in who you would be willing to spend your life with. I knew (and know) myself well enough to understand that I could never be faithful to a woman who wasn't able to contstantly satisfy my needs sexually and maintain her figure into her 40's and 50's. I know too many guys who think that the most 'shallow' thing that could come out of a guy's mouth, but it's true. I also know the same guys who'd criticize me for saying it (let alone acting on it) are the same ones cheating on their wives now or are trapped in a marriage by their own mental illusions of 'settling' down.

Don't settle. Get what you want or don't commit to anything. Really why would you want to? Too many guys are too willing to put up with a woman for the sake of doing what they think is expected of them. Fvck that, it will only lead to you devastating your own life and the lives of your future children and families and friends in having to deal with a bad decision you made because you didn't want to seem 'shallow'.
 
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