"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Im thinking about how much time i have left to find a wife. It's not so much my own aging that concerns me, since ive always made sure to take care of myself and am building up my future (though lagging behind). Im rather considering that at some point, women who are: reasonably attractive to me, passably mentally healthy, childfree but may want kids, arent smokers or alcoholics, and in a reasonable age range from me, simply wont be single anymore (though i dont want a slim woman so i dont mind them having gained weight).

So my question is, what's the rough age range where those viable women stop being on the market?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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women who are: reasonably attractive to me, passably mentally healthy, childfree but may want kids, arent smokers or alcoholics, and in a reasonable age range from me, simply wont be single anymore (though i dont want a slim woman so i dont mind them having gained weight).

So my question is, what's the rough age range where those viable women stop being on the market?
Women 30+ generally aren't good for that. At 30 right now, you can date 22-27. Now is the time for you to get serious about longevity if you think that will work.

Most men who legally commit to a woman end up with a failed marriage though. So even if you follow the advice from @Mike32ct and settle down with someone between 32-35, there's a good chance you are back on the market again in your 40s.
 

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Why aside from the hair, why’s that Mike?
Hair aside, I think that was a realistic (or conservative) peak. A low 30s guy is very marketable.

Everybody’s peak is different. But I would generally vote for lower 30s for a more serious LTR.

SW15’s point about the divorce risk is well taken. That’s another matter.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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