"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Im thinking about how much time i have left to find a wife. It's not so much my own aging that concerns me, since ive always made sure to take care of myself and am building up my future (though lagging behind). Im rather considering that at some point, women who are: reasonably attractive to me, passably mentally healthy, childfree but may want kids, arent smokers or alcoholics, and in a reasonable age range from me, simply wont be single anymore (though i dont want a slim woman so i dont mind them having gained weight).

So my question is, what's the rough age range where those viable women stop being on the market?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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women who are: reasonably attractive to me, passably mentally healthy, childfree but may want kids, arent smokers or alcoholics, and in a reasonable age range from me, simply wont be single anymore (though i dont want a slim woman so i dont mind them having gained weight).

So my question is, what's the rough age range where those viable women stop being on the market?
Women 30+ generally aren't good for that. At 30 right now, you can date 22-27. Now is the time for you to get serious about longevity if you think that will work.

Most men who legally commit to a woman end up with a failed marriage though. So even if you follow the advice from @Mike32ct and settle down with someone between 32-35, there's a good chance you are back on the market again in your 40s.
 

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Why aside from the hair, why’s that Mike?
Hair aside, I think that was a realistic (or conservative) peak. A low 30s guy is very marketable.

Everybody’s peak is different. But I would generally vote for lower 30s for a more serious LTR.

SW15’s point about the divorce risk is well taken. That’s another matter.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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