"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Market of cute women efficient

ruud3123

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Hi guys


Lately I’ve noticed a trend when it comes to dating apps and the social scene in general. It seems that the women who are considered cute are usually already taken or have no problem finding a partner, whether it’s for a serious relationship or something casual. In a way, the “market of love” feels pretty efficient right now.

For context, I take care of myself — I go to the gym regularly, I’m in good shape, I have a stable career, and I consider myself a calm, grounded person. Still, I often notice that the women who flirt the most are already in a relationship, while the ones who actively pursue me are usually not the type I feel attracted to and honestly they are 4-5 /10

I’m curious if others have observed something similar — is this just how things are nowadays with apps making connections so easy, or is it just my perception?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lately I’ve noticed a trend when it comes to dating apps and the social scene in general. It seems that the women who are considered cute are usually already taken or have no problem finding a partner, whether it’s for a serious relationship or something casual. In a way, the “market of love” feels pretty efficient right now.
In general, women who are average looking or better do not have difficulty finding partners. Finding a partner is only as difficult as women want it to be.

Childless women are going to be the most sought after women. Even 30s and 40s childless women are in demand.
 

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Women tend to date up, while men date within their bracket or down. So, the women you're attracted to often have more options and get taken quickly by higher-value men, while those pursuing you might be aiming up or seeking validation or monkey branching such as the ones in a relationship. That’s just how the dating market works.
 
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