"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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many years since ive spoken with her

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Hi. A few years ago, I was in a serious relationship with a woman I loved. We were engaged and planning to get married. We even told each other we'd love forever. To make a long story short, some misunderstandings arose and we broke apart. She then changed her mind about marriage and said she wanted to just finish her university studies. I haven't heard from her since and I don't have her phone number. So I recently sent her a few e-mails after several years of no communication. I am a man of my word. I need closure. What should I do? Is it realistic to think I can get back with her or should I just forget her and move on?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You can't get closure from someone else. It must come from within. Acceptance.

Also, see the BPD thread.
 

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has she emailed you back?

If she has...then maybe the door is slightly ajar for a reconciliation. If not...she has moved on. In which case you should too.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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CasanovaProtege said:
Hi. A few years ago, I was in a serious relationship with a woman I loved. We were engaged and planning to get married. We even told each other we'd love forever. To make a long story short, some misunderstandings arose and we broke apart.
She realized she really loves pvssy.

Wait. If that were true she would've stayed with you. Rest assured a few guys are resting their balls on her chin and asscheeks. I'm sure she's full of loving thoughts of you as she swallows each load.

She then changed her mind about marriage and said she wanted to just finish her university studies. I haven't heard from her since and I don't have her phone number.
Already answered.

So I recently sent her a few e-mails after several years of no communication. I am a man of my word. I need closure. What should I do? Is it realistic to think I can get back with her or should I just forget her and move on?
After a few years you're still pining after a chick who's slurping down chunky-style tossed salad. Says everything we need to know about what you really are.

A pvssy. A bleeding tampon in a sore vagina isn't as wussed out as you are kid.

Perhaps you can join your Mother and swap loads?
 

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KarmaSutra said:
She realized she really loves pvssy.

Wait. If that were true she would've stayed with you. Rest assured a few guys are resting their balls on her chin and asscheeks. I'm sure she's full of loving thoughts of you as she swallows each load.



Already answered.



After a few years you're still pining after a chick who's slurping down chunky-style tossed salad. Says everything we need to know about what you really are.

A pvssy. A bleeding tampon in a sore vagina isn't as wussed out as you are kid.

Perhaps you can join your Mother and swap loads?
Harsh but true.
 
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