"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Honestly, what is the point of even having this website? We were having a legitimate discussion that was overall rather civilized, yet the thread gets closed. To what purpose? To what end? You'll probably say political. How? We were discussing Covid? Are we supposed to pretend like that doesn't exist on here?

I've been biting my tongue for a while now on criticism of the moderators, but this is getting to be a bit much.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I can see your point but I think it's the right thing to do personally. It's a touchy topic with no resolution and endless bickering that basically turns out to be a broken record. It doesn't really contribute to the SS community in any meaningful way. It promotes hate, separation, bias, etc. against the male causes that we all care about that initially brought us here to begin with. It can be an unwanted distraction at best.

I just can't wait until the time we can go back to bickering about raw dogging it vs no condoms, instead of mask/no mask... ;)
 

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Thank you @redskinsfan92 for making this thread because it's something that needs to be discussed.

So many threads have been locked and so many members are getting banned. Some of the threads locked weren't even political.
 

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Here's a post I made in a thread about why Sosuave survived while other boards when extinct.

If we start engaging in censorship this board will fade into non-relevance as well:

 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It doesn't really contribute to the SS community in any meaningful way. It promotes hate, separation, bias, etc. against the male causes that we all care about that initially brought us here to begin with. It can be an unwanted distraction at best.
The country is separated whether we like it or not, and if we only wanted to discuss male causes people wouldn't come to the Anything Else section. I don't understand why people just can't ignore threads they aren't interested in.
 

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No offense to the mods, but as an adult of sound mind... I'd much rather have the choice to do the below... than for a mod (whom I've never met) decide what's best for me. If we don't care for someone's posting behavior... there's good news. The "ignore" option still works.


This sosuave option still works .jpg
 

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Here's another one, this wasn't even political....

 

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The country is separated whether we like it or not, and if we only wanted to discuss male causes people wouldn't come to the Anything Else section. I don't understand why people just can't ignore threads they aren't interested in.
The problem is politics brings the worst out of the people. It destroys forums unless it's moderated very skillfully. Only who are very civilized, detached with a lot of self control should post there. Think about Odysses who let him knot himself to the mast to fight the temptations of the Sirenes.

I like this expression from Roosh regarding posting on the forum. "Be beta on the forum". It reminds me als to the German expression: : Drive defensively not offensively.

There are better suited places for politics:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The thing about political discussions is no change. Nobody will change another’s mind.
Wrong.

I joined this forum as a life-long Dem0crat L1beral. Because this forum has allowed opinions from different walks of life (and varied topics) I am now a registered independent (and voting for a Repub1ican president for the first time in my life) .
 

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So...What were the “meaningful threads” you are talking about?

I saw the threads that were linked in here so far and see why they were closed. I also see some stuff you mentioned and those those threads are still open.

Also, @Black Widow Void, I wish a whole lot more members would learn how to use that “ignore” button. Maybe once that happens, we won’t have to ban people who decide to follow other posters around from post to post.
 

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Politics has to taken lightheartedly in forums or things get out of control fast. So keep it light and sweet:

 

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So...What were the “meaningful threads” you are talking about?

I saw the threads that were linked in here so far and see why they were closed. I also see some stuff you mentioned and those those threads are still open.

Also, @Black Widow Void, I wish a whole lot more members would learn how to use that “ignore” button. Maybe once that happens, we won’t have to ban people who decide to follow other posters around from post to post.
Just one example.
My mask discussion thread is another example. That one started off a bit hot, but then my own stance was softened a bit as I saw some points of those with whom I disagreed.

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There was nothing negative about my Man Up thread....

It was a positive message telling guys not to beat themselves up if women use that "man up" phrase to attack their ego.... Which is no different than when a woman says "you'll die old and alone" as a scare tactic....

That the thread was closed shows how some mods are on some sort of power trip....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Btw @Bible_Belt as you can see from these examples, they're not just singling you out....

They're doing it to everyone....
 

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@TheVirtualMind I think this by @billtx49 explains it pretty much

Another thread CLOSED due to petty bickering…
Take it to PM’s gentlemen.

Petty bickering happens pretty much between same people all the time, if you got those in your thread, it will get locked. It is @Spaz, it is @Who Dares Win and it is @Bible_Belt. They do have good things to say, it is when they say good things back and force page after page f@y things happen to threads.
 

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Is there a way for us to submit Articles of Impeachment against mods that abuse their power.....????...

We need to Make Sosuave Great Again....
 

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There was nothing negative about my Man Up thread....

It was a positive message telling guys not to beat themselves up if women use that "man up" phrase to attack their ego.... Which is no different than when a woman says "you'll die old and alone" as a scare tactic....

That the thread was closed shows how some mods are on some sort of power trip....
Not really. The forum I guess wants to operate on a higher level. Guys who get into the situation that a women says man up have to get out of the situation. End of story.

It's bad for the mood to just think about these kind of women or to make a thread about it unless you are doing it in a skilled way.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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