"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Managing plates

chath

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I got a little out of control here and now I'm spinning 7 plates. How do you guys keep track of them all? One is good for a workout buddy+random dates, one seems to be only available Thursdays and Sundays, another I'm pursuing as a long term prospect(her and one other determines my availability to the others), etc.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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narcissist

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To many in my opinion.

3 is ABSOLUTE max. 2 is the best.

You have to have at the VERY LEAST 4-5 days during the week to be pursuing YOUR goals.

Juggling 7 girls seems like it would be taking away from QUALITY time spent on your hobbies/goals/education/reading/working out/meditating etc., etc., and ultimately becoming a better man in other aspects of life.

If girls come in between your path of perpetual betterment and hinder the progress of your goals/aspirations by taking up too much of your time, then you have too many and are wasting precious time by slaving over vag. Spend your time creating a legacy and have a b1tch or two on the side, and you will be more happy on your death bed knowing that you did something worthwhile in your life rather than toiling over pussi.

p.s. nice covert brag thread ;)
 

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Well I can say that I'm certainly not letting them get in the way of my hobbies/gym/work. The best I can describe it is they are "accessorizing" my life. I think I answered my own question in my head so maybe a mod can close/delete the thread. I need to think out loud sometimes.

I think the bottom line is a few of them were on their way to wanting to be "exclusive" and maybe were under the impression that they were the only one? So they became a bit needy and I can't simply hold all these pointless smalltalk conversations over text etc.
Before it was easy because we only talked right before/after we went out or did something. Now it's "so how was your day" or constant selfies.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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