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Man, what a tight situation...

jt the azn

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So, today I was texted by a girl and how her friend is asking if i was spanish(i dont even know this girl, but she saw a pic of me in a friends phone). Note: This girl texted me using the cellphone of the girl who is asking if i was spanish. Anyways, she gave her phone back to the girl who was askin me if i was spanish or not. I said i wasnt, but it ended up about me asking her out somewhere(i dont even know this girl).

Later that night(which is right now), I texted the phone and realized that the friend(not the girl who asked me the question) is the one whos holding the phone. She asked me what I was planning to do with her. I said, "Lol youre a nosy girl arent ya? lol"

This statement got the response of, "Excuse me? shes my friend i care about her and she doesnt know you. i barely know you. thats why."

Then, I responed back with: "oops my apologies for forgettin that fact"

Then, her: "Yeah a pretty important fact dont you think so? Anyways i just wanted to tell you her best friend will kick ur ass if sth wrong happens to her."

Why the sudden change of mood? We were cool until this moment. Should I go forward with seeing the girl tomorrow? How should i respond? any insights on the situation?
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

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if you'd told her sorry, you thought she was the other girl, everything would've been fine. she thought you were dissing her for caring

just be nice if you come across the friend again. and when you take out the girl you want, you now have a convo piece - tell her about the texting you and the miscommunication like it's a funny story. you'll defuse any preconceptions of you being untrustworthy
 

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Eh, it's nothing. Her friend is just being protective. Say something reassuring yet c&f, like 'Don't worry she'll be safe. Unless it's a full moon, then I turn into a werewolf, but that's not for another couple of weeks. Seriously, I'll look after her good or you can kick my ass.'
 

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The reason her friend is being overly protectice is likely because she sees her friend falling for a guy she's never met. I'm willing to bet dollars to doughnuts, the friend has the hots for you in a bad way.

Don't even bring up the friend when you meet her tomorrow, thats AFC, just have a great time. Make sure you get her cell number that way you can cut the friend out of the loop.
 

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MacAvoy said:
The reason her friend is being overly protectice is likely because she sees her friend falling for a guy she's never met. I'm willing to bet dollars to doughnuts, the friend has the hots for you in a bad way.

Don't even bring up the friend when you meet her tomorrow, thats AFC, just have a great time. Make sure you get her cell number that way you can cut the friend out of the loop.
He has the cell number but the friend usually has the cell. XD

But yeah what I think is just go ahead with it. Go out on a date or two with the girl and then maybe at some point meet the friend. That way if you don't like the girl you may like the friend. But you'll need to get the friend in your corner at some point anyway.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

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I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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