"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So, today I was texted by a girl and how her friend is asking if i was spanish(i dont even know this girl, but she saw a pic of me in a friends phone). Note: This girl texted me using the cellphone of the girl who is asking if i was spanish. Anyways, she gave her phone back to the girl who was askin me if i was spanish or not. I said i wasnt, but it ended up about me asking her out somewhere(i dont even know this girl).

Later that night(which is right now), I texted the phone and realized that the friend(not the girl who asked me the question) is the one whos holding the phone. She asked me what I was planning to do with her. I said, "Lol youre a nosy girl arent ya? lol"

This statement got the response of, "Excuse me? shes my friend i care about her and she doesnt know you. i barely know you. thats why."

Then, I responed back with: "oops my apologies for forgettin that fact"

Then, her: "Yeah a pretty important fact dont you think so? Anyways i just wanted to tell you her best friend will kick ur ass if sth wrong happens to her."

Why the sudden change of mood? We were cool until this moment. Should I go forward with seeing the girl tomorrow? How should i respond? any insights on the situation?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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if you'd told her sorry, you thought she was the other girl, everything would've been fine. she thought you were dissing her for caring

just be nice if you come across the friend again. and when you take out the girl you want, you now have a convo piece - tell her about the texting you and the miscommunication like it's a funny story. you'll defuse any preconceptions of you being untrustworthy
 

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Eh, it's nothing. Her friend is just being protective. Say something reassuring yet c&f, like 'Don't worry she'll be safe. Unless it's a full moon, then I turn into a werewolf, but that's not for another couple of weeks. Seriously, I'll look after her good or you can kick my ass.'
 

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The reason her friend is being overly protectice is likely because she sees her friend falling for a guy she's never met. I'm willing to bet dollars to doughnuts, the friend has the hots for you in a bad way.

Don't even bring up the friend when you meet her tomorrow, thats AFC, just have a great time. Make sure you get her cell number that way you can cut the friend out of the loop.
 

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MacAvoy said:
The reason her friend is being overly protectice is likely because she sees her friend falling for a guy she's never met. I'm willing to bet dollars to doughnuts, the friend has the hots for you in a bad way.

Don't even bring up the friend when you meet her tomorrow, thats AFC, just have a great time. Make sure you get her cell number that way you can cut the friend out of the loop.
He has the cell number but the friend usually has the cell. XD

But yeah what I think is just go ahead with it. Go out on a date or two with the girl and then maybe at some point meet the friend. That way if you don't like the girl you may like the friend. But you'll need to get the friend in your corner at some point anyway.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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