"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Man, should I walk away??
- Thread starter Pac_Man
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
squirrels
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Which it is depends on context.
Drop her immediately! Women like that will destroy your self-esteem and will possible end up manipulating you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
So I would suggest, firstly forget all about having a bf/gf relationship, and if you are not already shagging her then drop her altogether. If you have already slept together and want more, do what Cremasta said, then try the new situation for a while. If you dont get what you want from it, then drop her later on - no need to burn bridges now if you dont need to.
Incidentally my girl seems much more interested in me now that I've made it clear that she is not as important to me as she first thought...
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Depends on what YOU want bro. If all you want is an "F" buddy, say 'cool, that works'. But if you're in it for a 'relationship', haul a$$, don't walk.