SeymourCake
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The second husband is one of the nicest people in this situation and he is facing the worst part of it. Not only did he get cheated on but he is most likely going to jail for figuring out he was getting screwed and being the victim.SeymourCake said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yes, we get it, you don't like Americans...do you have anything of value to add to this conversation?BigJimbo said:American boys are so stupid. He "may" does not mean he will. You have no concept of the justice system in America. Most cases NEVER even get to trial. Deals are cut and MUCH MUCH lesser charges are dished out.
Oooh. Now this I like.Warrior74 said:Most women would have said, that her husband left his email open. She wouldn't admit to "hacking" into his account. She just happened to walk by and see it there. The even more adroit would have opened it...left it open for several hours or days in another window to have plausible deniability in court of law.