Oh please spare me.......this guy had no game and deserved what he got,don't make any kids if you don't want to pay up bucko....I got divorced and my ex wife got NONE of my retirement OR money because I have super game....eat me.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.