"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Man is haunted by wife's college days casually sexing "handsome", "good catch" men

Huffman

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I think this was a huge "sh!t test", or, in any case, a power move.

Now we don't know if she wants to destroy the marriage, or wants to heavily disrespect him, or maybe just a little as couples do. If this is really the only such incident then shouldn't be a very big deal as the woman said.

Otherwise...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Huffman said:
I think this was a huge "sh!t test", or, in any case, a power move.

Now we don't know if she wants to destroy the marriage, or wants to heavily disrespect him, or maybe just a little as couples do. If this is really the only such incident then shouldn't be a very big deal as the woman said.

Otherwise...
It's possible she "didn't know"... Also it's possible she was "sh1tting" upon him. We don't know only she does.

I still think he's entitled to more sex than they had.
 

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Augustus_McCrae said:
This guy just got a taste of the red pill shoved down his throat.

If you look at his language, he says: "I knew about two other past loves". That is how he rationalized her banging two other guys. Wrapping that inside of the "love" context let him view her as a "good" girl. And now, 20 years into the marriage, he finds out she blew two "hawt" guys. So his entire image of her as his little special snowflake has been shattered.

That's is why this guy is so freaked out. And that is why it will keep eating at him. Something like that is a game changer in a marriage or LTR.

-Augustus-
More like a red pill enema.
 
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