Man I can't stand this

[DJHoolahoop]

Man nothing hits you harder than having to get experience in the dating game. Just treading on these waters is so unnerving to go through, I never know if I can falter at all to make sure I'm not going over the top and I'm not sure if I'm being "too much" and should tone it down or if it's a test.

This unknowing/uncertain feeling is very new to me and its hard getting used to. A quick summary is that there's a girl I like and I tease her a lot, but I always wonder if I go overboard or if its just a test from her. Anyone know how I should treat this situation?

 

[Natch]

"there's this girl , and I tease her a lot"

Do stuff , and if she responds to it, keep doing it. If she doesn't respond to it , do other stuff.

 

[CrazyAsianBiker]

Good Call Natch.

 

[CrazyAsianBiker]

Good Call Natch.

Just hang in there DJ.

Use the process of elmination as Natch stated.
Ditch what doesn't work and use what does. Don't let it get you down, just because you've read the entire DJ bible doesn't mean you're prepared AT ALL.

It's when you utilize the information, with experience. Remember... We're not watching videos, we're reading. Most of the stuff is merely attitude adjustment. It's our call on the volume control, the amount to apply, and how YOU YOURSELF can personally pull it off, it depends on EVERYTHING. Use the site as a base, and slowly build yourself.

Hang in there.... we've ALL been there.

 

[tom121]

it's called desperate

for a real don jon like me, i just be myself,relax, and smile.
that's what you really need to do.
if your trying to be someone else, it won't work

my advice is that think it through for things like:
1) what do i need to improve my overall look, ask female friends for best advice (i'd pefer the hot ones only LOL)

2) what action/words i've said that made the girl do this/that?

3) do i really want her? not because of her look but personality? do i know her well enough to trust her? has she been in many break-ups/ONS/sex activites?

 

[DJHoolahoop]

I like her and she has a good personality. I like to tease a lot and although I'm new at being more ballsy, I don't know if I'm being "too much" around these girls and in effect turning them off. But its not like I should start asking them or wondering about it much because it could also mean that I have no confidence in it then. On one side something tells me that what I'm doing at times isn't great to do and others I wonder if I am on the right track and am naturally being tested about it as a result.

I'm wondering if my comments are too overboard or "harsh" as I do a lot of neg hits and C&F stuff. I'm no pro at it and that's where I'm trying to see the destinctions, but afterall my gut tells me I go too far sometimes, but I'm not sure if that's just the old me trying to be "nice". This only comes from the fact that the girl puts on a "sad" face and tilts her head down and I feel like she's just joking along with it but I can't tell if somewhere in there that she's offended by it and is too shy to speak up.

See what I'm saying?

See what I'm saying?