"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Man I can't stand this

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DJHoolahoop

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Man nothing hits you harder than having to get experience in the dating game. Just treading on these waters is so unnerving to go through, I never know if I can falter at all to make sure I'm not going over the top and I'm not sure if I'm being "too much" and should tone it down or if it's a test.

This unknowing/uncertain feeling is very new to me and its hard getting used to. A quick summary is that there's a girl I like and I tease her a lot, but I always wonder if I go overboard or if its just a test from her. Anyone know how I should treat this situation?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"there's this girl , and I tease her a lot"

Do stuff , and if she responds to it, keep doing it. If she doesn't respond to it , do other stuff.
 
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Good Call Natch.

Just hang in there DJ.

Use the process of elmination as Natch stated.
Ditch what doesn't work and use what does. Don't let it get you down, just because you've read the entire DJ bible doesn't mean you're prepared AT ALL.

It's when you utilize the information, with experience. Remember... We're not watching videos, we're reading. Most of the stuff is merely attitude adjustment. It's our call on the volume control, the amount to apply, and how YOU YOURSELF can personally pull it off, it depends on EVERYTHING. Use the site as a base, and slowly build yourself.

Hang in there.... we've ALL been there.
 
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it's called desperate

for a real don jon like me, i just be myself,relax, and smile.
that's what you really need to do.
if your trying to be someone else, it won't work

my advice is that think it through for things like:
1) what do i need to improve my overall look, ask female friends for best advice (i'd pefer the hot ones only LOL)

2) what action/words i've said that made the girl do this/that?

3) do i really want her? not because of her look but personality? do i know her well enough to trust her? has she been in many break-ups/ONS/sex activites?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I like her and she has a good personality. I like to tease a lot and although I'm new at being more ballsy, I don't know if I'm being "too much" around these girls and in effect turning them off. But its not like I should start asking them or wondering about it much because it could also mean that I have no confidence in it then. On one side something tells me that what I'm doing at times isn't great to do and others I wonder if I am on the right track and am naturally being tested about it as a result.

I'm wondering if my comments are too overboard or "harsh" as I do a lot of neg hits and C&F stuff. I'm no pro at it and that's where I'm trying to see the destinctions, but afterall my gut tells me I go too far sometimes, but I'm not sure if that's just the old me trying to be "nice". This only comes from the fact that the girl puts on a "sad" face and tilts her head down and I feel like she's just joking along with it but I can't tell if somewhere in there that she's offended by it and is too shy to speak up.

See what I'm saying?

See what I'm saying?
 
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