She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'm Indian.moneyisking said:go through my shyt. you will understand... well hell at least im not the only one. theres indians and arabs.
vatoloco said:Err... "Duh"?
Of course the chick has to dig you! Why would she go out with someone she's not physically attracted to? I do the same thing.
Remember: it's all a numbers game.![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Okay. Looks matter. What are you gonna do about it? Use your big ugly nerdy asian brain and tell me what the solution is. If there is no solution will you kill yourself? Turn gay? Give up? Tell us what you do now. I bet you're not ready to do any of those, I bet you just want someone to tell you it's going to be okay. Well it's not. Not unless you get off your ass, leave the pity party and do some hard work. So toughen up butter cup, its a cruel world. Good luck.moneyisking said:First of all, title is CATCH PHRASE. Don't take too much offense.
I know I know... You may think it's another AFC ranting about some stupid thing that happened 5 minutes ago with this girl. No I am not. Let me elaborate.
I am simply stating this: Looks Do Matter
Yup. I mean I am one of believers that personality and confidence are more important than looks. So Why the hell am I saying out of blue that looks matter? Let me elaborate more.
I will be 100% honest. I have NEVER seen an ugly guy go out with a hot girl. Wanna know more? But still, I believe personality and confidence are more important than looks.
Let me go on. But I have seen regular guys go out with hot girls. So why does that matter?
Well... It fvcking matters if you are a 5'7" Asian.
Honestly, small Asian **** is a lie (at least to me). I mean, I have 7 inch ok? Is it that seriously small? Yet, girls probably think that I have 2 inch penis b/c the media and stereotypical racism says so.
Anyways, I have NEVER seen Asian guy dating a white woman. No wait! I have. It was "super-good looking" Asian guy and hot white woman. I am not ugly, but I am plain looking and definitely doesn't have those "typical asian look" plus I work out a lot so have better body than most white guys. But I am not that "hot asian guy" type either, and for someone who has a brother that looks partly hispanic and partly asian (and thus getting laid a lot) is painful.
I don't know. Yal will think I am an idiot for not having confidence and all, but don't assume I am stupid. I know and have tried to raise confidence in every way, but any girls I ask out flaked for 3 yrs.... So I am thinking... thus my looks don't work in US? I mean at least 1 out of 150 million females in this country must like me, shyt? I mean.. under this circumstances, it's kind of hard to gain confidence b/c all I do is FAIL.
I lied down and thought and thought why the shyt I am not popular with girls like some of my legendary friends are on campus. I then compared all the popular dudes and chick magnets that I know in my university. Every single one of them were mostly white, some latino, some black; and all of them were good looking. I have never seen actual asian friends that date white girls... plus I live in Texas where Asian girls are hard to find.
WTF, am I never going to get good with women? Is this racial barrier never to be hauled down (of course unless you're an asian with good-looks) Man... man...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Wow, you haven't learned a thing since the last one of these WBAFC "Looks Matter" thread rants.Falcon25 said:Looks Do Matter. It Makes Life With Women A Lot Easier. Don't Let PEOPLE WHO THINK OTHERWISE Fool You. Good Genes Are The Most Valuable Thing You Can Have In This World.
Well, not really. I have to work at it. Just like everybody else.Just a Shot Away said:It's s.hit like this that makes the whole seduction thing so frustrating. I'm willing to bet that you have no problem getting laid.
Of course they don't have the exact same criteria as men! Otherwise they'd just ask for your penis size right off the bat!And yet, you have ZERO understanding of how attraction works. You know so little in fact, that you think women use the exact same criteria as men to select a mate. Scary. You just naturally "get the girls."
Well you see, it's not necessarily the face that women are attracted to. Each individual woman has a set of what I call "physical qualifiers" that a man *MUST* have for a woman to be initially attracted to him. Height, race, skin complexion, facial structure, voice, hair length/color, teeth, build, etc.I on the other hand, have a somewhat thorough knowledge of sexual selection in the animal kingdom and know that physical attraction means very little to women. Facial structure is irrelevant to the survival of her young. This is counter-intuitive given what the tabloids, reality T.V. shows and fitness infomercials try to tell you, I know. But the truth is, no amount of facial symmetry will replace confidence. The world is a confusing place.
Nice, yes a lot of people get fixated on **** they absolutely can not change. Be ****in' proud where you're from. I always have a real good mutual respect for those who take pride in their cultural differences. It's sad to see when someone pretends to be something else or hide where they're from.moneyisking said:I admit. I was just tired of 3yr pursuit with no result and just blamed at my race. Fvck me, but I am going to start over.
I am sure the best way to start is start accepting the race, be proud of it, and build it as an advantage. I mean, I can't be confident unless I am comfortable with who I am first. That is the first step.
Well, I will focus my search little more towards the Asian dating communities. I am sorry for starting a dumb a$$ thread.
I will definitely hang around here a lot though as I am, b/c this place is filled with Don Juans with good advice.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Finally, someone with reality.DonGorgon said:duh looks matter... men try to fool them selves into thinking they dont...lolololol if you dont have looks you need money, and even that wont get you layed as fast as looks will..lol
Being a good looking 20 year old who used to be a nice guy, I can tell you that even if you are good looking, you won't get laid if you act like Mr. Nice Guy.DonGorgon said:duh looks matter... men try to fool them selves into thinking they dont...lolololol if you dont have looks you need money, and even that wont get you layed as fast as looks will..lol
Looks can decide how quickly and cheaply you get laid. Being rich can help you out, but I agree a girl will remember a date with Brad Pitt if it's dinner and a movie but if you're average and try that, she could flake on you. Buyer's remorse.Falcon25 said:Finally, someone with reality.
LOOKS ALWAYS TRUMPS ALL ELSE.
It is always possible for a normal or ugly guy to get a chick, but make no doubt about it, she will drop you in a heart beat if that Bradd Pitt around the corner pays her a "bit" of attention.
If you are a handsome guy with a nice body, all you have to do is show up. You don't need game, you don't need anything to sleep with her, except a smile. Doesn't mean she will keep you (especially if you are broke) but you don't have to WORK to get puvsy. PERIOD.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.