Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Got it. :rockon:Maxtro said:Eh it might be true. It would make sense that women would have a stronger immune system simply because they are the ones that get pregnant and have the babies. If a woman gets sick and dies while pregnant, odds are the baby is going to die as well. It would make sense that nature would want women to stay as healthy as possible.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Could this also help explain why on avg women live longer then men?The Bat said:And it's just the "first line of defense" where women may have an upper hand.
Funny thing about statistics is that they can be distorted to fit whatever agenda you wish.DJDamage said:Could this also help explain why on avg women live longer then men?
Also on a side note its best not to act weak and helpless when you are sick if you are around women, they will not sympathize with you and they will lose respect for you in the long haul.
My comment had nothing to do with "Maning" up actually. Hell if I am feeling sick (bad headache, diarrhea, flu etc) then I ain't going to hang around some chick and complain. I am just going to go home and deal with it by myself, unlike some other guys who want to make their girlfriend's into their mothers and "take care of them".The Bat said:And I agree with you about the second part. If you are still mobile and aren't terminally ill, then "man" up and deal with the illness.
This also bring's the difficulty issue of being sick when you are married. If you looked at some of the comments, you would see that most women do not respect their husband's if they become ill and end up doing nothing but rest as a result. Fvck that! if I am sick then I need some time off to myself (peace and quiet) and I don't need some nagging wife questioning the legitimacy of my illness and equating that to being lazy and being less then a man.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.