You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Got it. :rockon:Maxtro said:Eh it might be true. It would make sense that women would have a stronger immune system simply because they are the ones that get pregnant and have the babies. If a woman gets sick and dies while pregnant, odds are the baby is going to die as well. It would make sense that nature would want women to stay as healthy as possible.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Could this also help explain why on avg women live longer then men?The Bat said:And it's just the "first line of defense" where women may have an upper hand.
Funny thing about statistics is that they can be distorted to fit whatever agenda you wish.DJDamage said:Could this also help explain why on avg women live longer then men?
Also on a side note its best not to act weak and helpless when you are sick if you are around women, they will not sympathize with you and they will lose respect for you in the long haul.
My comment had nothing to do with "Maning" up actually. Hell if I am feeling sick (bad headache, diarrhea, flu etc) then I ain't going to hang around some chick and complain. I am just going to go home and deal with it by myself, unlike some other guys who want to make their girlfriend's into their mothers and "take care of them".The Bat said:And I agree with you about the second part. If you are still mobile and aren't terminally ill, then "man" up and deal with the illness.
This also bring's the difficulty issue of being sick when you are married. If you looked at some of the comments, you would see that most women do not respect their husband's if they become ill and end up doing nothing but rest as a result. Fvck that! if I am sick then I need some time off to myself (peace and quiet) and I don't need some nagging wife questioning the legitimacy of my illness and equating that to being lazy and being less then a man.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.